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Little Dub
May 7th '06, 02:11 AM
Alright so like many topics in this forum, this is about a girl. Kendra. I've known her since kindergarten, and I am fifteen currently, going on sixteen soon. For most of elementary i don't really remember her too much, that was a time when the boys didn't play with the girls. I didn't become really good friends with her until 7th grade. Just as a reference to how big my school is, my entire grade consists of about 30 or so people. Anyway, in 7th grade the lockers went alphabetical and I was a few lockers down from her. That was when we started talking more, and I got to know her better. For the most part of the past ten years she has been pretty tight with two of her friends, Brittany and Lauren. Anyway back in 7th grade I guess I always kind of viewed her as a slut, and I just liked her as a friend. Then last year around spring she asked me out. I was really taken back by it and I actually laughed and said "no". Over the last year though, I really got to know her, and she is about the exact opposite of a slut. Anyhow that is neither here nor there. While all this had been going on I had a crush on another girl, Allie, and I had asked her out earlier last fall, only to be turned down.

After this I started considering dating Kendra. I had always thought of her as just a friend, yet a part of me had always secretly liked her. It was then that I had come up with a plan, to ask her to homecoming. The only flaw was one I had not foreseen. John, another guy in my grade asked her first. When I had talked to my best friend about this, another guy overheard and it got back to Kendra that I was really pissed off about John. I lied and told her it was about something else but I don't think she believed me. Homecoming came and went by extremely dissapointing.

I figured there was no reason to rush it so I wasn't planning on asking her out anytime soon, I figured I would see if the feeling was mutual. However before I could even think, another guy, Cody Doster, asked her out, and she said yes. She continued to date him for about 2 and a half months, before they broke up. However she has said that the most they ever did together was one kiss.

Thus we come to the beginning of last week, when she and Doster (nicknamed Dumpster) split. Nothing too major happened last week, except for the lock-in that we went to last night. It mainly consisted of girls, but there were a few other guys there. I hung out with her most of the night and we had a really good time. In fact, we were the only ones out of like fifteen people that stayed awake the entire night. At around four or five this morning we were sitting on the floor pretty much out of sight from everyone listening to her friend's iPod. It was pretty fun. Thats not to say we hadn't tried to sleep. We had both laid down, about two feet from eachother, and neither of us slept. I know why I didn't sleep, I was way too nervous to sleep, and I can't be sure, but that might have been why she couldn't sleep. Then again it could be wishful thinking. Even so, neither of us actually got any sleep until we were about ten feet apart and out of eyesight.

The point is, do you think she likes me as a friend, or do you think she may have feelings for me? I want to ask her out but I don't know how.

Guest
May 10th '06, 01:12 PM
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Little Dub
May 17th '06, 01:24 AM
I would really appreciate some advice if anyone would be so kind.

Mamfy
May 17th '06, 06:01 AM
I think she may well like you. Just keep spedning time with her and she may get to like you a lot more. She obviously likes you as a friend because she's wilkling to stay up all night with you lol. also that she is spending time with you shows that there is something there.

Just keep being with her and just see how it goes :) Good luck. She may even ask you first!

Little Dub
May 17th '06, 01:32 PM
Alright so theres this other guy in my class, Jordan, and I think he may like her as well. Whenever we're walking in the hall he always comes up behind her and squeezes her side, like right above her hip. He's always doing weird stuff like running around like a retard and he just acts really creepy. What I'm mainly finding odd about it is that she never gets creeped out, she just smiles and laughs, though on occasion she has called him weird. Heck the other day I was just messing around and I poked her stomach immitating another idiot in my class, and she got really weird and told me never to do it again. Yet she smiles when Jordan does it, does this mean anything? Also, how long do you have to wait to ask someone out after they break up, because I'm really not sure but I thought your supposed to wait a while before you do.

Mamfy
May 17th '06, 03:02 PM
Well you don't HAVe to wait but it's an idea. Just ask her how she's taking it, and whether she is coping well, if she doesn't seem fussed about the split then I don't think it really matters how long you wait, whereas if she is still a little sad, I'd leave it a while, she may just need a kind shoulder to be there for her after the break up.

She may also be putting on an act, and that she doesn't mind people poking her who she doesn't really like, but doesn't want someone close to be doing that to her because they know more about her. But meh. That's about all I know really. Sorry.

Sweet_Cherry
May 17th '06, 09:17 PM
This is wat i thnk u shud do...
When at the right moment, tell her u regret not going out with her, give her compliments like u look so pretty u have pretty eyes i like ur smile...Whatever..
But before that, u mite want to ask her if she likes that Jordan guy.
Ask her out before its too late, and before any other boys do.

Little Dub
May 18th '06, 01:23 AM
Alright so I had this plan but it kinda isn't working out. Jordan and Spencer (a total faggot to say the least) are in a paintball tournament. Well he was inviting a bunch of people and he had said I'd be able to pick me up (keep in mind we are friends, not really great friends but friends anyway) and I was planning on having a chance to ask Kendra out, because she is going too. However Spencer has to ride with Jordan too and there isn't enough room cuz his dad and grandpa are coming. So now I have to way to get there, and I highly doubt my parents would drive 40 minutes just to watch a paintball tournament. I don't know, maybe its just my massive paranoia but now I am thinking he may be planning on doing the same thing, asking her out that is.

Edit: Today Jordan asked her to come over to his house on Friday to watch a movie, and she said that if her parents let her she will. My only hope is that her parents won't let her, which is a good chance considering they usually only let her go out like once a weekend. Still, I get the feeling she likes him back. Any ideas on how to win her over?

Sweet_Cherry
May 20th '06, 12:14 AM
Well see if she does like him back, dont try to change that...n dont try to chase her too far until u end up getting more hurt each time u do. (remember ther r other girls out ther too) , so sometimes things aren't meant to be, but stil ask her if she likes him.

Little Dub
May 21st '06, 02:21 AM
Alright, I'll try to see if she likes him, and if I'm still unsure I'll ask her. I talked to one of her best friends the other day, Lauren, and she said that Jordan might have a thing for Kendra, but that she doesn't know if Kendra likes him. I figure I'll see what Monday brings, because I don't know if she is even going to the paintball tournament tommorow.

On a side note, I don't think Jordan will try anything too sudden, because the last few days I've noticed he was wearing a ring on a chain around his neck. My immediate reaction was to look at Kendra's finger, but her class ring was still there. Apparently the ring belongs to Shelby, who I did not know Jordan is still dating.

So I thought awhile, and I found the perfect time to ask Kendra out, May 31st, the band is going to Cedar Point, and who is in the school band? Well, for freshman anyway its her best friends and my best friend and some other girls, and then the upper classmen. Now..... I just have to learn how to play some songs before then or fake it... one or the other..... do I write too much?

Sweet_Cherry
May 21st '06, 03:26 AM
Nope u don't write too much lol, i read prety fast :P Ya, may 31st is like 1 1/2 weeks from now. And if u have ANY questions, ask her bff, she'll know all about her, u no...(been there dun that)
In my skool guys always come to me wit their problems, cuz their girlfriends will likely to be one of my best frineds..*sigh*
Btw, just dont make it too obvious that ur competing against other guys for her...lol.

Lindsay
May 21st '06, 07:24 AM
i think you should stop pussyfooting around and just ask her out! If she says yes, then great! If she says no, then oh well! You're graduating soon, unless i'm mistaken, and you probably won't be seeing those people for the rest of your life and there are other girls out there.
Like Mamfy said, if she's spending time with you thats usually a pretty clear sign she likes you, especially if she had feelings for you in the past.

sorry if that sounded harsh, but if you keep avoiding asking her someone else will and then you'll be really upset.

Little Dub
May 22nd '06, 08:02 PM
Umm... just for the record I'm a freshman, I won't be graduating for another three years.