Losing your virginity. Does it have to be special?

[Stephanie]

Do you believe that your first time should to be special with someone you really love or can it just be with any Tom Dick or Harry that's willing?

[Pearson]

Do you believe that your first time should to be special with someone you really love or can it just be with any Tom Dick or Harry that's willing?

I wunt want it with a Tom, Dick or Harry that for sure!

I don't think it should be with anyone, It should be someone that you now, love and respect. But waiting for the 'perfect' person is only going to bad thing, chances are your not going to find the 'perfect' person.

[-Snake-]

This is more important for the girl than the lad so I will stay out of this, just try not to give it tooo easy.

[~Wayne~]

People have different opinions but it depends on the person
Some or more desperate to lose it so they go with more or less anyone
Others care about it and try make it more special I guess

[Lindsay]

i'd say it should be a boyfriend or someone you care about. Its something thats only going to happen once in your life so why not make it memorable?

[Sweet_Cherry]

Yeah, For me, Id' say you have to love the person a lot to lose your virginity to them. Lol which is why i'm not having sex before i marry, but only after i marry...
Sounds kinda pointless but i wanna do it that way.

[Brianna.]

Well, I've waited this long, so when I do lose it I'd really like to enjoy it and not regret it the next morning.

I don't want like...candlelight and rose petels, but I do want it to be somewhat special.

[BleedBlack]

sex is so over-rated, i don't think it's like the most special thing goin round, but everyone's got different idea's on what it is.

when i was a virgin i use to think sex was the biggest deal goin around and i waited 11 months with my then boyfriend, nowdays i just think it's whatever really.

[Mamfy]

I'd want it to be special. I'd want it to be with someone I want to spend the rest of my life with I think. I would definitely not have it with a stranger. I'd just feel so used.

So yeah. I would want the day when I lose my virginity to be special, and not just something in impulse and quick and not thought out very well.

[PrincessAlice]

i would say no because mine wasnt special i hadn't known the guy long and i don't really regret it so no i don't think it needs to be special

[balisticbruv]

mine woz spec. i thowt she woz d 1 n we wer goin strong n we wer comitd. so i med a n8 out of it, meal, cuddlin' intimate time the rest i leav 2 ur imagination but if felt spec. im not in2 religion or enetin but it shud b sum1 u can spend d rest of ur life wi cos if its not n sumut goes rong ur screwed 4 nxt 16-20 year!

[Mamfy]

Are you and this girl you lost your virginity to still together?

[balisticbruv]

no she went off wi anutha lad! lol!

[Mamfy]

:( Oww sorry

[Boy_Wonder06]

i think that at the end of the day its best if you do it someone who you care for loads the first time, as its your first time, and at the end of the day its not gonne be perfect is it, i mean anythink could happen, and say sumink did go wrong (even though it probs wundnt) then at least you can trust the person.

[Sponge'K'nob]

personally i dont care.
reason:
if its someone special, its someone special!
but what if you cant find the special person? what if you're embarrased?
when you do find the right guy you do want to no what you're doing...

[Wen1992]

someone special, because i won't regret it later.

[iaxa]

dont really care here. if it happens it happens. but i havent got loosing my virginity on my todo list atm.

[lana loo]

half of women who wants to loose their V. always says that they want it to be special. but in actual fact 99.9% of the time, its not special and it results that the women regret ot for some-reason on another, when u reeli dont need to. where ever or wenever u lose it, it dont matter who its with (well it does like but to an extend) when u feel ur ready then you think its special to you.

for exapmle... i lost my virginity, under a tree when i was 14 with my bf (now ex bf). sound special to u? it mite not sound extra special to you, but at the time it was soooo special to me lol.

so no, it dont have to be super dooper special, cos you think it is at the time ur doin it lol :D

[iaxa]

under a tree... LOL that dirty!

[lana loo]

it wasnt acctually lol. it was fun and exciting. cos we couldve been caught

nice hot day and your with ya bf, enjoying yourself, whats the best way to finish the day of. sex under a willow tree lol :D

but thats my point exactly ... do you think that special? i thought it was at the time, so i didnt mind

[iaxa]

hmms on a beach would be better... cause there are people watching... and they would feel awkward!

[lana loo]

come n find a beach in Barnsley n i'll give you a tenner hahahaha lol

[Sponge'K'nob]

isnt there a pub called the beach in barnsley? :P

[lana loo]

lmao, i dno :confused: !!! there isnt 1 near me anyway lol

[Feign]

Not strictly about virginity, but more so the arguement of sex before marriage. Taken from http://sillyish.jemjabella.co.uk/sex.php


The question, of course, is whether or not to wait for marriage to have sex. The first half of the argument I'm presenting is just a list of some general points. The last half are debates on points people brought up while arguing my opinion. You should also bear in mind that in the end, it's a personal choice, and it's going to vary from person-to-person. There's no absolute.

The first time isn't fun

If you're thinking that that first time, on a honeymoon somewhere with the love of your life is going to be a magical, beautiful moment when your two bodies merge, I can tell you that it won't be like that. It'll be awkward, it'll be painful, and even if everything fits together ok, the girl at least won't be too impressed. She'll be thinking, "All that buildup for this? Geeze" I swear! That's what it'll be like. And this is after the intense ripping pain of entry (in some cases, but no matter what, it'll at least be a little painful), and awkward moments of trying to figure out how the whole thing works. Personally, I want to enjoy sex while on my honeymoon

What if your partner sucks?

Just like there are bad kissers, there are bad lovers. Wouldn't you hate it if you discovered that your spouse is a total flop in the bedroom after swearing undying love? Maybe their style just isn't suited to you, maybe your parts don't work together too well, and maybe your partner has been hiding some interesting details about their nether regions. Whatever the case, I'd like to know all these things before getting married, because I don't want to spend the rest of my life with a cold fish.

You're gonna suck

Just like anything, sex takes practice, so (in the case of a girl) even if your partner is pretty good, you'll be lying there like some sort of weird dead animal going "What do I do?" If you're the guy... Well, you probably aren't going to last too long if it's your first time, and as a guy, you're expected to be a pro. (harsh but true) Making a nice lasting impression on your partner of an amazing coupling for your first time together would be good. So practice before doing the big night!

Who will wait for you?

Girls might have this nice fantasy of dating a guy for four or five years before getting engaged, married, and finally having sex, which is sweet, but finding a guy actually into this will be a pain in the bottom. A really big pain. In fact, I'm inclined to believe it's nearly impossible. Besides that, even most girls don't want to wait for marriage, so any guy who possibly wants to wait will have a hard time finding a GIRL with the same beliefs. What's the likelihood of finding someone you LOVE and who's willing to wait?

All that Dating...

Most people wait a couple of years before talking about marriage. So are you going to spend several years with someone without going beyond kissing? It sounds like something that younger teens do, not something adults do.

But... It's wrong!

The thing is, "It's Wrong" because humans have set it up to be a big deal. Do you think my gerbil was thinking, "I must save myself."? No! it said, "I am now ready to have some mad sex and make babies... Let's go!", and went for the most genetically suited male around.

Then again, not all humans have set it up to be a big deal. Some societies treat sex as something to be celebrated and done as often as possible, as a way to express love and joy.

Why do humans do it for pleasure?

Since people seem to argue that "Animals don't do it for fun; why should we?" I thought I would bring up this interesting article:
Humans, bonobos and notably dolphins are animals known to have non-reproductive sex, apparently for the sake of pleasure. All three animals have heterosexual intercourse even when the female is not in estrus, that is, at a point in her reproductive cycle suitable for successful impregnation. Likewise, all three animals engage in homosexual intercourse.

In both humans and bonobos the female undergoes concealed ovulation, so that the male does not know whether she is fertile at any given moment. The evolutionary advantage encourages sex anytime for social reasons, rather than reproductive ones. The presence of one or more emotionally committed adults assists the female in cooperative tasks, such as raising offspring.

Humans, bonobos and dolphins are all intelligent social animals, whose cooperative behavior proves far more successful than that of any individual alone. In these animals, the use of sex evolved beyond reproduction to serve additional social functions. Sex reinforces intimate social bonds between individuals to form larger social structures. The resulting cooperation encourages collective tasks that promote the group's survival. - answers.com (http://www.answers.com/topic/sexual-intercourse)

It's actually not surprising, and if you think about it, you may have already known it. Orgasms strengthen emotional bonds between two people because of an oxytocin hormone which is released. We have sex for fun because it's instinctive and humans were made that way. It's one of those bizarre keys to survival!

[iaxa]

come n find a beach in Barnsley n i'll give you a tenner hahahaha lol

hmmms i dont wanna waste my money... why dont u come over here and find a beach over in australia! ahhh the warmth during winter.
even though it can get pretty cold.

[ANT]

i tuk a girls virginity d uva day n now av finishd er i feel a bit bad coz it wernt special at al n she iz guna rememba it 4 d rest ov er life. soz

[Mamfy]

Why did you finish with her? Was she just not right for you?

[lana loo]

shes goin to feel used now, i put my money on it ..

[Mamfy]

Yeah that's what I thought, unless she cheated on him or something...

[lana loo]

i ant a clue, but if he took her virginity then she couldnt have cheated on him bad tho ...

[Feign]

i ant a clue, but if he took her virginity then she couldnt have cheated on him bad tho ...Sex isn't the most intimate experience you can have with someone. I'm sure you're probably aware of that, though, given how you speak of it.

[lana loo]

whats that s'pose to mean?

[KiKiDee]

My first time was when i knew the guy for 4-5 weeks. he sed he wanted a long term relationship etc told me how special i was blah blah blah etc...a week later we finished! sex is so casual these days and it isnt romantic like it used 2 be. It isnt that bigger deal anymore but i do think it shud be with someone you do care about!
Kirsty xx

[Dazzle]

Defiantly yes. My body is the greatest thing I have and I'm not prepared to hand it over to the first person who walks past. Sex is supposed to be special. You need to feel emotionally ready for it and with someone you really care about, otherwise you might regret it for the rest of your life.

[Angela_Sleeping]

I don't want it to be a fling but it doesn't have to be extremely special, it'll probably suck anyways, so better have it suck with someone you trust not to tell everyone that you suck.
No puns intended, mind you.

[gprime]

As long as there's no reason to suspect they have an STD and you find them sufficiently attractive so as to be able to become erect, thus facilitating the subsequent intercourse, then that's all that really matters.

[KathyN]

It would be fantastic if the partner will make it something special... DREAMS...

[KiKiDee]

Like a chocolate cake!! :D

[KathyN]

Like a chocolate cake!! :D
Atleast that...lol

[PrincessAlice]

hmmm yeah sex is sex it isn't gonna be great because girls the truth is it is gonna hurt at first i don't think mine could have been special i don't like pain

btw i ain't trying to put you off

[KiKiDee]

mine didnt hurt that much nor did i bleed. i think it hurts after for abit but you get used 2 it

[PrincessAlice]

i didn't bleed but it did hurt felt like it was burning d

amn you men lol

[KiKiDee]

u know wot, all problems start with MEN! MENopause, MENstrual cycle!

[PrincessAlice]

haha damn right it does

[God.]

:O.

You're woMEN yourselves...

[PrincessAlice]

men with penis's :p

[CraigYohn!]

u know wot, all problems start with MEN! MENopause, MENstrual cycle!

you mean minstrels, surely?1

[KiKiDee]

hehe! ooooh YESH!

[Tami]

the first time i had sex id didnt hurt and it never has since :)

[God.]

and you're still only 15....

[Tami]

your point being?

[Tami]

and you're still only 15....


what does being 15 have to do with anything

[Porcelain]

I think it should be with someone you love and trust and whatever, but I don't think it needs to be champagne, candles and Elton John playing, if you get me.

[~Wayne~]

he means you ain't actually legal emo.beads thats all

[Shane]

Who says your first time has to be special??


If you were a Virgin someone offered you Billions of £ for sex you'd most likely say yes. :/

[IceBurn3000]

Who says your first time has to be special??


If you were a Virgin someone offered you Billions of £ for sex you'd most likely say yes. :/
And how ofter is someone going to be offering a virgin a $1billion to have sex?

I still think the first time should be special. This article (http://www.youthcentral.net/forums/showthread.php?t=1699) which was originally posted in The Courier Mail Newspaper here in Brisbane, Queensland, Australia provides some interesting info :)

[WarHeart]

Yeah, For me, Id' say you have to love the person a lot to lose your virginity to them. Lol which is why i'm not having sex before i marry, but only after i marry...
Sounds kinda pointless but i wanna do it that way.

My girlfriend chose that too, I respect her choice and I'm waiting =]

It doesn't sound pointless to me

[IceBurn3000]

My girlfriend chose that too, I respect her choice and I'm waiting =]

It doesn't sound pointless to me
Good on you!

[Shane]

And how ofter is someone going to be offering a virgin a $1billion to have sex?

I still think the first time should be special. This article (http://www.youthcentral.net/forums/showthread.php?t=1699) which was originally posted in The Courier Mail Newspaper here in Brisbane, Queensland, Australia provides some interesting info :)
It might happen.

[CraigYohn!]

*agrees with Shane* It might, might be Bill Gates's fantasy lol

[IceBurn3000]

It might happen.
Before or after pigs start flying?

[Tami]

he means you ain't actually legal emo.beads thats all


the leagal age means jack shit any more

[~Wayne~]

Legal age with anything doesn't

[Tami]

Legal age with anything doesn't

what?

[NATAL!E]

I see legal age as pretty much a guideline as to how old someone should be before they make the choice to have sex.
Before the age of 16 or so, girls are very often still growing up mentally, and I know, because I can see myself changing all the time, let alone physically.

When girls have sex before 16, unless they are extremely forward in their maturing [like one girl i know in particular], I think they are pretty much all taking a very immature approach. They think sex makes them feel older and it's something you should do after going out with someone for a few months, so they can brag to people about being grown up and all that.

Whereas in reality, sex is about [in a relationship], being able to do something together which means a lot. It proves the trust and responsibility each person has, and the respect they have for eachother. Plus a lot more than that.

But aye, in my opinion, I think a lot of young girls think it makes then better than others when they have sex, but they aren't mentally mature enough to actually know what sex is about. It's not just physical, it's a huge emotional thing as well.

[~Wayne~]

I agree with Nat, some people are rushing too much to grow up and it aint doin' em no good

[Luke]

what?

He means 'age restrictions' means shit.

Like drinking.

I can go in a certain shop where I live and buy beer. (Wahoo)

[Tami]

i can go in to any shop and buy beer.........................umm itsalways good to look older

[~Wayne~]

Thats not the poinmt I was getting across and 'Woo hoo' for you...

[Luke]

Yea, i'm going there tomorrow. It's funny because they look at you, they know i'm blatantly underage and then they just put it in bag for me.

That's a paki shop for you (controversial)

[Tami]

well thats why then

[~Wayne~]

Forest was merely pointing out the fact that age doesn't matter with other stuff not just age of kids having sex

[Mamfy]

Paki shop. Looooool Luke :P

[NATAL!E]

Yea, i'm going there tomorrow. It's funny because they look at you, they know i'm blatantly underage and then they just put it in bag for me.

That's a paki shop for you (controversial)

LUKE! :O

Utter disgrace!

[Mamfy]

Thats' what I was like yesterday when he told me, Nat!

[Tami]

racism sux balls

[NATAL!E]

So does Luke. :P

But he likes his viagra *cough* to get his perma erection going first. :Nat:

[love you really lukey :P]

[Luke]

racism sux balls

Yes, it does.

[Luke]

So does Luke. :P

But he likes his viagra *cough* to get his perma erection going first. :Nat:

[love you really lukey :P]

"Nobody would even notice it" you said.

You're bringing attention to it! :(

[NATAL!E]

Sorry love.
I can't help it.

I want everyone to know my present to you. Lol.
It was special you see.

Even if you wouldn't pissing return it!!! ¬_¬

:Nat:

[Luke]

You'd have enjoyed the vibrator though!!

I don't enjoy my "present".

[NATAL!E]

You didn't even send me a present!
TUT.
And I would have enjoyed it yes.

And yours was more useful than anything else. Lmao.

[Luke]

Let's be honest with ourselves here. I don't need it at all :D

I can get it "working" alone thanks.

[crazy_kat]

Dont care, sex is sex LOL!

[suzy223]

Meh, it probably should be special.

But seeing that I will probably never lose my virginity, I don't think that will matter for me. :rolleyes:

[dear-me]

mine wasnt special.
at all.


i was drunk
and in the back of a van
on a broken futon.


Honestly
alot of people who say dont wait
are basiclly trying to presure you into it.
I regret not waiting.
Seriously
Yeah i like sex alot now.


but i honestly wish i would have waited.
its so much better when your older.
and alot of the people who say there having sex at a young age
arent.


id wait
its sooo much less stressful
and so much better.

[OMFGIDC]

For me, it's not about wanting it to be special, I know my first time won't be amazing, I'm not expecting it to be.
But, I know for a fact I'd have to really trust the person that took my virginity.
I don't think I'd have to be in love with that person, I'd just have to know that he respected me, and that I could trust him.
Main reason being that I'm quite insecure about myself and my body. :|
After that though, I can see I'll probably just think of sex as just that. Sex.
I won't know until it happens though.
LOLZ.

[MiSs_DiVa]

I think it should be with the right person at the right time and only when you are ready and it should defnitly be SPECIAL!!!!

I dont believe in having underage sex or sex with any tom...dick i wanna remain a virgin until i find my special someone and only then will i consider it but he'll have to work really really hard for it...Everyone loves a challenge!!!! :) xx

[Angel101]

If you wanna sleep with someone, what is it saying to that person? i personally want it to be with someone special. you can only give it away once... why not to the person that you wanna spend the rest of your life with??

[Guest]

And what happens if you don't end up spending the rest of your life with them? The person will only seem special at the time, and if you end your relationship, maybe you'll regret doing sleeping with him/her the first place. I don't think it has to be special persay, but I do think it has to be with someone you know and can trust I guess. Not with any old stranger you met off the streets, but with someone you maybe have feelings for at the time, or something. I'm 15 and i'm still a virgin, but me and my boyfriend are talking about trying to have sex soon.

[Pearson]

And what happens if you don't end up spending the rest of your life with them? The person will only seem special at the time, and if you end your relationship, maybe you'll regret doing sleeping with him/her the first place. I don't think it has to be special persay, but I do think it has to be with someone you know and can trust I guess. Not with any old stranger you met off the streets, but with someone you maybe have feelings for at the time, or something. I'm 15 and i'm still a virgin, but me and my boyfriend are talking about trying to have sex soon.

Taking about trying to have sex?

Bloody Hell he just puts hit nob in your vagina, its not difficult love...

[Bob!]

Pearson tut, you know what she means, this is the type o stuff I talked about :P

Also as to the topic yeah and take note of your advice urself remember, ur only 15 :)

[Princezz]

Losing your virginity doesn't have to be special, but it can't just be with any random person. You have to at least know them and trust them (like a boyfriend). And if your questioning having sex with someone, then you shouldn't have sex with them at all.

[Darts]

I havent slept with many people at all but whenever I have its been really special and nothing but, I probably didnt make the best choices regarding sex but I dont regret anything cos its all turned out for the best for me.

I think that article that Pete posted is really good to be honest, http://www.youthcentral.net/forums/showthread.php?t=1699 its true that people seem to think that the only thing wrong with having sex at an early age is that you might get pregnant or get a disease.

[metal-maniac-13]

Dont care.

[Darts]

Why post that? lol

[oh_sylphility]

If you're the type that wants to be loved and have sex with him/her always w/o interruptions, then it should be someone you love.

If you're the type that don't really care, it'll either be someone you choose randomly out of nowhere or even better, your high school teacher.

[hottbabe4unow]

now im still a virgin but i think it sholud be special because u olny lose it once no turn backs or anything so when ur older u dont want to regret it

[xAddictedx]

Well I know the moments of when i have sex the first time wont be magical like they always seem to be in the movies. Things just never really seem to turn out that way. We're not in the movies.

But yes, I'd like for it to be with someone special and I like it to mean something to both of us.

[xMissIzzyx]

I think girls find it more important for it to be special, but I think ti depends on the person and their morals//religion//personal opinion. Nearly every first time is special in some way. It's up to you, noone can really say

[Innamorata]

I waited for the right person and it was special. Didn't hurt and I don't regret it.

[_ally_]

hmm . . . nothing is ever perfect, this goes for sex aswell, i wanted my first time to be special, but it ended up not being so, loose it to someone you love and who loves you in return and it should be okay.

[chocolatepocky]

It doesn't have to be very special, but not just some fling in a desperate attempt to lose your virginity before your friends do or something...

[JerseyShows732]

half of women who wants to loose their V. always says that they want it to be special. but in actual fact 99.9% of the time, its not special and it results that the women regret ot for some-reason on another, when u reeli dont need to. where ever or wenever u lose it, it dont matter who its with (well it does like but to an extend) when u feel ur ready then you think its special to you.

for exapmle... i lost my virginity, under a tree when i was 14 with my bf (now ex bf). sound special to u? it mite not sound extra special to you, but at the time it was soooo special to me lol.

so no, it dont have to be super dooper special, cos you think it is at the time ur doin it lol :D


I lost mine at 13, he was 15 we were going out for about 4months at the time. It was the spur of the moment thing you know? Your horny, he's horny you want it. Mine was at the park on a slide... first things didn't start out well there so i went home to the living room and yeah : / it happend it didn't last long, but when he broke up with me i was so sad like i literally bawled my eyes out. Not because of the breakup but because i had sex with him. Other then that im 15 years old now, and i learned from my mistake. At first i "regret" it, now that i think about it i don't really care anymore, nothing to regret a mistake is a mistake you learn from it later on. After that "lesson" i never had sex with anyone since yay for me! I rather wait for someone i trust, and someone i have been going out with for over 4months.

[kristina_39]

hey i lost mine under a christmas tree. how would you like to lose your virginity that way... him the next morning callin you by his last name and we gonna last forever honey sorta thing... you know what happened a few months later.. i found out that he was cheatin on me and he still to this day... even tho we are over... i love and miss you baby im sorry please take me back... oh no not gonna happen ... did i think it was special at the time yeah.. any girl would.. haven dinner with your bf ...candles... flowers... wine... yeah i did..things going over board..do i regreat it no.. because i loved him at the time.... if i would known then what i know now would i do it over.. hell no... but thats life does it need to be special.. to you yes... is it really when its said and over with ...NO

[StarlightChaser]

It's all about respect I think..
I think if he truly repsects and loves you,
that he's the right person x)

[Rashella]

I agree with MissIzzy, it depends on the person and what they believe really.

But i think it should be special, youll only regret it later anyway in my opinion.

[xheavensninjaX]

its all up to the person. its bad sometimes to not lose it to the right one though.

[Jimbob]

I lost mine to someone I loved, trouble was, they didn't love me...

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

You'll only end up feeling like a cheap slut eventually if you go around fucking any Tom or Harry, whatever kinds of names those are.
But yeah it should be with someone you've known for a long time, with someone you really love.
Otherwise it's just a fuck.

[Roly]

IMO wait till marriage but thats my opinion and I won't push it on you guys. The reason i say this is because it signals the beginning of a relationship, and with the relationship comes the extra stuff like sex etc.

[Leon]

Mine was special so i would have to say yes because it was perfect.
I wasn't too young or anything, so everything about it was great.
However i know not many people have a special first time

[ally.girl]

YES YES AND YES... ha ha i say that because most "kids" these days and i am saying kids for a reason are having sex because everyone is having it and they are having it with some random. my 1st time wasnt a special place but i did love the guy and that made it speical. i guess it doesnt have to be "special" it just has to be the right time with the right person.

[someoneloveme]

Yes, it should always be special. Too many people rush and it's a shame

[lucille]

It's not exactly fucking brain surgery is it? I don't regret mine because there is nothing I can do about it, even if the magic began at 2:30am and was well and truly over by 2:34.

[michelle]

its different for everyone.
people feel different, some want it to be special and some just dont care.
it your choice.

[Leon]

I don't regret mine because there is nothing I can do about it, even if the magic began at 2:30am and was well and truly over by 2:34.LOL gutted.

[notorious]

I'm still patiently waiting for mine. I've been with the same girl for over a year and a half, but she says she's not ready. So I wait.

[Bob!]

/Respect. :)

[Leon]

I'm still patiently waiting for mine. I've been with the same girl for over a year and a half, but she says she's not ready. So I wait.That's commitment, you must love her to pieces, I respect and admire you for that.:)

[notorious]

Thanks. It's not as tough as you may think. My days of raging hormones have passed me by. It's funny though when I hear my friends whining about how they "need to get some pussy." When you get to really know a person, it becomes clear just how unimportant sex really is.

[sweet8060]

I bleive it should be with somebody special, but these days i guess it doesn't matter.

[Leon]

Thanks. It's not as tough as you may think. My days of raging hormones have passed me by. It's funny though when I hear my friends whining about how they "need to get some pussy." When you get to really know a person, it becomes clear just how unimportant sex really is.Like you say when you get over that first bit it isn't that hard, It's just daft when friends say stuff like that :)

[Fez]

actually sex is important. it probably brings the couple closer of farther from each other depending on how they enojoyed it

[Innamorata]

Sex is important, but only in a relationship. Well that's what I think.

[Mamfy]

Thanks. It's not as tough as you may think. My days of raging hormones have passed me by. It's funny though when I hear my friends whining about how they "need to get some pussy." When you get to really know a person, it becomes clear just how unimportant sex really is.



Thats what my boyfriend did for me. I wanted to wait til I was in a serious relationship with someone who I truly loved and he respected me for that :)

[Leon]

Thats what my boyfriend did for me. I wanted to wait til I was in a serious relationship with someone who I truly loved and he respected me for that :)The best way:)

[Mamfy]

It really is the best way. It makes everything far more special.

[timswfc]

Thanks. It's not as tough as you may think. My days of raging hormones have passed me by. It's funny though when I hear my friends whining about how they "need to get some pussy." When you get to really know a person, it becomes clear just how unimportant sex really is.

Like the people above me, i fully agree with what you are saying. When i was with my gf, the best feeling that came with the sex was in my heart; sex is so good when you are in love, but saying that i have never had sex with someone i haven't been in love with.

Been with my girlfriend made me realise that sex is about emotions more than the physical feeling

[Mamfy]

Wow tim. Amazing! :)

[Bob!]

True Timbo, that outlook seems quite rare now though unfortunately.

[Mamfy]

My boyfriend is like that now thankfully lol

[Emmax22]

the night you lose your virginity should be the best night of your life. it needs to be with someone you love and trust. i would want everything to be perfect......not with some manwhore i picked up at a taco stand.

[HystericGlamour]

it would be so much better if you loved the person rather that hardly new them

[Darts]

the night you lose your virginity should be the best night of your life. it needs to be with someone you love and trust. i would want everything to be perfect......not with some manwhore i picked up at a taco stand.

lmao taco stand!

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

Honestly, if you gave your virginity away to someone who you knew you didn't love you'd just be dissapointed and disgusted with yourself because it was just a fuck, and you'd always remember that as your first time. You want it to be special.
Enough said.

[Emmax22]

lol yeahhhh taco stand.
you can find me there often =)

[Shakedown]

yea it really should be special as it is a once off thing....

[Bob!]

Just curious as to what all yer views on blokes are.

Normally its percieved as not as "bad" or a big thing for us, also we don't actually physically lose it and so on, its just that nowdays a lotta lasses seem to be attracted to the sexually active male instead of the one who keeps is honor and so on, they seem to be viewed as the "losers" and put the women off cause they know others aint been attracted to em enough for that an so on, plus good sex is an obv positive factor in a relationship and startin from scratch = longer learnin time as only the physical experience can really determine how things go.

What would you reccomend for a bloke, takin his chances an goin for it whenevers possible and gettin some experience so he can get it over and done with, and also hopefully confirm how he can please his proper lady if he aquires one later on, or to wait and keep his honor and all that but receivin bugger all while others do, but makin it all the more special for the lass who he does hopefully get with at some point in his life, even if it means waitin for bloody ages just to make her feel like that and then hopefully not have her put off by it?

[Darts]

You answered your own question I think. It depends on what YOU want. That's what it's all about. Just think of how you want to see yourself and how you want others to see you, and what you want to get but what you don't want to lose. It's difficult but it really is something you have to choose yourself to make you feel as good as you can.

[Bob!]

Well true but as said for us blokes it seems less of a physical "losing" it sorta thing, more just, having sex when had not before.

As for the persons own views of what they want for theirself well if they didn't care too much then it wunt really matter, though it would mean the loss o the honor and so on if they'd stood by it for all those years. That bit the bloke can figure out in his own mind, its the part that what the ladies think about it that aint so easy to figure, as in what is the general best perceived view and so on. A bloke who has and is now a lil more skilled cause of it, or one that has waited and stayed true but has bugger all. Which is the most attractive, admiring or degrading in the ladys eyes, what would the general population of ya want from ya Men in that situation? And what would ya admire and be happy with him most for?

[Darts]

I'd hate to go out with a guy knowing he'd slept with lots of people and cheated on a previous girlfriend(s). Although I may consider if he proves that he's going to treat me differently. I'd prefer to go out with a guy who's lost his virginity simply because I've lost mine, and wouldn't want his to be wasted on me. I hate guys who try too hard to impress or who come out with really shit innuendo, unless they're doing it on purpose like loads of my mates at school followed by high fives..... lol

pretty much.

I love natural attraction, and it's usually obvious if two people genuinely like each other.

[nymph]

that is different for every one...when i lost it i thought it was really speical and with a speical guy.....turned out to be a jerk.....but then my current bf well i was his first so it was again speical. i personally think every time is speical no matter who u a with--well as long as you are aware of it and agree to it

[Infamy]

Yes. It is. Maybe because being conservative is a big part of our culture here in Philippines. I mean for us. "virginity" is where we base our "purity" as a girl slash woman slash lady. ^____^ Luckily I still have my virginity. hahaha.

[Aussiebeef]

i think it is. i lost mine to my (now ex gf) and she wanted it because everyone was having sex. if i could change the way i lost it i would make it with some one more respectable. not nessaraly the "perfect person" but some one not only wanting to do it just coz everyone else is... someone like my gf :)

[nickgs]

lost in the bathroom at the pop and crisps nite at corporation....meh dusnt bother me much, sex is sex

[Liamz369]

i feel my first will be special, any more special with a girl that it would be her first aswell?

[*Jess*]

Pardon? I didn't understand that last sentence.

[Kerry]

I'm with Jess. :|

Edit:
Do you mean that would it feel more special, if it was the girl's first time aswell?
So you both lose it with eachother?

[Liamz369]

yeah thats what i had meant X/\/

[Leon]

I reckon so, it's still special anyway.

[Bob!]

Probably, but its special enough tbh as itl be their first time with you either ways. :)

[Leon]

You will never know anyway as you can't do it twice and compare.

[sniffer]

It would probably be special for the first time because both of you would explore and experiment with each other with no experience.

[porcelaindoll]

sometimes at the time it is special, but most of the time looking back it feels like one big regret.

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

Yeah most guys say I'm a skank because I flirt alot but I really don't give a fuck, I'm still a virgin and I won't put out and I'm proud of that, because like I don't want it to be just a fuck, I want it to be special, shared with someone I love and trust and am devoted to, someone who is devoted to me as well and I know loves me, someone I KNOW I can trust at all costs.
Boys are pretty much just fun to flirt with though. ;)

[kayumie]

I'm still virgin :)

[Daniella™]

It depends I haven't lost mine yet so idk

[girl bob]

yes i wanna have sumit 2 tell me kidz if i have them!!
"mum how did your virginity?"
"i dont no just wid a guy that i liked i guess"

[VraiCanon]

Well, I'd say yes, it should be special because I think you're going to remember it for the rest of your life & I wouldn't want to regret it. Although I wouldn't necessarily say it must be with someone you love.
I lost my virginity to a guy I THOUGHT I was in love with - I wasn't, but I don't regret it because it was special to me at the time.

[!GeTSiCK]

sex is sex...
i wouldnt make it 2 big of a deal.

[Guest27]

I'd say it has to be special. With someone you truly love. So, I would prefer it was with the person I was going to spend the rest of my life with, but, not to be pessimistic, how can you ever be sure of that? So I'd say I'd want to be so far into the relationship, so deeply in love, that for you to split up something would've had to really change, and you'd be so torn up about it either way, that having had sex or not wouldn't make much difference, 'cause it'd feel like you'd lost the love of your life anyway. That sounds so morbid, but I don't mean it badly =P I guess I mean I feel you have to be past a certain "point of no return"; really, truly in love.

Me? 17 years old, virgin. Dating a boy of 18, we're 16 weeks in, he's also a virgin. In love, "fooling around", but not quite ready for sex yet. We'll just know when the time is right, I guess.

Oh, and to answer Bob's question.. I'd rather he was inexperienced. I don't care if the first time wasn't as good as it could be; I'd feel so much better dealing with it sucking a little, and learning and improving together, than it being pretty good but knowing it was because he'd been practising with someone else.
I don't give a shit if other people find him attractive, I'm with him because he's amazing to me, not because he's a trophy, and I certainly wouldn't feel like he was a loser. Hey, worse comes to worse, we can be losers together ^_^

So yeah.. waiting until the right time is very important to me.

[VraiCanon]

sex is sex...
i wouldnt make it 2 big of a deal.

in my opinion, if you think that "sex is just sex" then you aren't really ready to be having it..

[nyx]

I don't think people say it SHOULD be special, I think it puts extra pressure on it. But at the same time I think had I lost it drunk or whatever I would regret it. So I guess yes for me it had to be, but people shouldn't extend their views onto other people and judge them for how they lost it.

[NewAbortion]

"It is an infantile superstition of the human spirit that virginity would be thought a virtue and not the barrier that separates ignorance from knowledge."
-Voltaire

I agree with Voltaire on this one. Losing your virginity is nothing special.

~Maggot

[God.]

Lol at that signature, Leon, what were you thinking?

[Leon]

Lol at that signature, Leon, what were you thinking?It was a jokey comment.

[ilovemybaby]

My first time was actually like 2 or 3 weeks ago, with my fiance. It was like the most romantic special moment of my life, and i know i will never regret it, because it was with someone i truly love, and want to be with for the rest of my life.

[Brianna.]

You have a fiance at the age of 15?

[Ajay]

Yeah i think its more important for the girl, cause a girl can get laid anytime.

[ilovemybaby]

You have a fiance at the age of 15?

Yup, totally in love.

[God.]

Yup, totally in love.

I got engaged to my fiancee when I was 21, and she was 19.

Who knows of your engagement?

[Active]

Right now I just want to do it with this very cute girl I like

[-Michael-]

Don't we all lol.

[TrippXxOver]

I don't think it matters. Sex isn't something life changing like some people think. Unless you do get pregnant (which actually isn't as easy as some people like to lead on to be) And stds, which you should at least be friends or so with the person you are screwing, to at least know they are decent enough to get stds and spread them, it's just enjoying yourself.


I lost my virginity to a guy that had a gf and he didn't even know me that well the first time. But we started to hang out more afterwards and he is basically my best friend.

[Tyquangf]

Do you believe that your first time should to be special with someone you really love or can it just be with any Tom Dick or Harry that's willing?


i think sex has to be special bcuz its fun!!!!!! it hurts but it cool.

[Tommeh!!!]

^where do you get off with your lies?? we dont think you are cool for it.

Its quite funny, you posted a thread questioning why 'grlz' feel they need to have sex to fit in at school. yet here you are posting about how addicted to sex you are, then moments later posting about how you and your 'boo' are both virgins...are you lying to try and fit in? FORSHAME!! This section of the forum is for advice and the like...sadly we dont have a Bullshit section, but feel free to post your lies in the spam section.

On Topic:

I dont think virginity is important, i lost it when i was 13, havent regretted it, although it was a pretty rubbish encounter...but...thats 2 virgins for ya. Id say its not tat important for it to be special, but i think its nicer if it is.:P
But if people cherish it, why not. :)

[dolittle08]

Do you believe that your first time should to be special with someone you really love or can it just be with any Tom Dick or Harry that's willing?

someone that you know you will spend the rest of your life with.. someone that you love and respect the most...