Mum issue

[lovin_it]

Me and my mum have different opinions and interests. She is the only one that
brings home the income for the family, which is not a lot. She feels like she's
the only one that works hard. I only work part-time in retail and she thinks I
should earn more money so I could afford the things I want to buy. She also says
that I should save up which I am doing. That is not my main problem. My main
problem is that when I want to buy the things I want, she complains that I don't
have the money for it when, eventhough she brings home the main income, she
doesn't earn a lot and buys the things she wants to buy. For example she has two
wardrobes full of clothes and I told her to throw it away as she has too many in
the house, but she says she deserves these things as she works hard. Is this
fair? Please help me because we have had several arguments about this and it
just wouldn't end. Thank you. Any suggestions on what i should say to my mum?

I'm looking forward to your reply

[jess]

Thats a hard situation, but basically its your money, you also work hard for your money and you should be able to spend your own money however you want to spend it, if she gave you the money, that would be a different situation but its yours and i dont think she has the right to tell you what you should be doing with your money, if you want something, you get it, don't let her stop you. But thats just my view point, take it or leave it.

[Mamfy]

Well, what do you usually spend your money on? I can see this from her point of view if you are buying alcohol or cigarettes or drugs, but if you are buying things you need then I don't understand why she is getting ratty about it.
How old are you anyway? Maybe she wants you to save so that you have enough moneyt for your own car or your own place to live.

[Pearson]

I ant read any of this but - you only get one mum!

[Luke]

I ant read any of this but - you only get one mum!

Not true. My cousin is adopted.

[Pearson]

Not true. My cousin is adopted.

Fair play.

[Mamfy]

I suppose he reals 'real mum' as in biological mum.

[Sponge'K'nob]

how old are you?

anyway..this sounds EXACTLY like me and my mum.
although shes not the only one bringing in money in our house...all 3 of us work.
but anyway,
my mum buys things like things for the house, clothes, and books holidays, she loves decorating and buying things for the house, or houses, yeah ive moved a few times, shes obsessed, and she doesnt always have the money, so runs herself into depts.
even though i actually earn more than her she has a go at me for spending loads on booze and tops, im obsessed haha, seriously i go shopping at least twice a week.
she likes me going out and stuff, she practically forces me, but says i should save for a car and stuff, which i will do in my own time of my own accordance, but sometimes i get accross were shes comin from,
she only wants me not to spend so that i can save for things that are important, and doesn't want me to run into dept, which is why she doesnt like me using ebay, cos i would go mad on there, she even offered to go into dept for me to get a loan for a car, cos she said it would look bad on me in the future! but i was like noo.
end of the day they have been our age, they made their mistakes, i know i want to make my own mistakes, but the advice is always handy. and i respect that.

[Wen1992]

people has loads of problems, but you only have one mom. What about your dad?