Help, I think I fancy her

[lovin_it]

recently i've had strong feelings for my female best friend and i don't know what to do. everytime i go round her house i get heart beats and whenever i see her with her boyfriend i get jealous. how can i tell her how i feel cos she's straight. my family are open about bi, lesbian etc. and told them how i felt. if i'm a lesbian or bi, be it. but i just can't tell her how i feel cos she's straight and would think i'm crazy if i told her. i've been having feelings for her since last christmas and nearly kissed her. i wanna get her out of my mind.

thanks:confused: :angered:

[me1]

well i could try and help but i wouldnt know how really, i think youd have to make up your own mind because on the one side uve got the fact that she may not be friends with you if u tell her or maybe she will like you too hu knows. on the other hand forgettin it and keepin it a secret it could make u feel rly bad etc and wonder wat heppened if u had told her. maybe u shud way up all the bad bits wif all the cud bits about it and see wat to do that way.

other than that i really dunno.
soorry.

[lovin_it]

that's it that's actually my problem. if i tell her she might not be my friend anymore and i doubt that she'll like me too cos she's into her boyf i mean REALLY into her boyf. i don't know what to do. i've never experienced this kinda thing b4. anyone else can help me?
thnx

[me1]

well it sounds like you might rule out tellin her then. but if you try and find someone else or try nd forget about it etc then it might jus be really bad and make u feel liek shit.

[Conal]

there was a program on channel 4 called sugar rush about this. A lot of people get confused about their sexuality. All you can really do is experiment and let your mind make itself up.

If you and this girl are meant to be together then it will happen. Just lightly show how you feel about her and it may help out as she may ask you about rather than you asking her. Telling her straight away about how you feel about her might shock her and it could end in trouble.

Get back to us if you need any more advice. We are always here to help! :)

Conal

[me1]

yer thats a gud idea. i saw that program once or twice lol its on at liek 11 and basically this girl likes her m8 but dusnt tell her and sort of twists all sorts of situations so that she can like kiss her or summet lol. but the above is rite, if u drop subtle hints for a while and then she asks u, it wud be better than u jus tellin her rite, and it wud eat u up inside less if u have a plan rite.

[lovin_it]

what you mean flirt wiv her?

[me1]

well maybe not flirt but yer u cud, jus subtle hints like gettin really close t her in the next few weeks or summet

[lovin_it]

hey guys,

anyone who didn't know about my problem was that i fancied my female best friend and was wondering how to overcome it. anyway, another situation happened when she asked me why i'm acting wierd. she thought i liked someone cos she already knows i act this way when i like someone. i can't lie to her saying this random guy likes me cs she'll want to find out who he is. what happens now. i really really wanna get her out of my mind. thanks

[KiKiDee]

Best thing is to talk to her, if shes you best friend she will not understand but not have that weird feeling, duno the correct word to put. if she acts weird and changes towards you, maybe u shud just spend a little time away from her, meet new people.

out of sight....out of mind?
or
absence makes the heart grow fonder??

i duno but the way i usually get over people is by avoiding them, deleting their number and messages etc. i fell for this guy and it took me ages 2 get over him, im talkin 6/7 months (dnt wory i wasnt obsessed, stuff was stil happenin although we had finished but we wont go into tremendous detail!) he knew i liked him and i thought we cud have another chance...obv not. he hurt me real bad n i will never forgive him. i deleted his number, messages and msn addy just so i dont hav to come into contact with him.

anyway good luck
kirsty xx

[lovin_it]

i've known her since nursery and it's hard to avoid her cos she doesn't know how i feel towards her like she'll think i'm acting wierd for no apparant reason. if its a boyfriend it's understandable cos he knows you liked him before and you can avoid him with a reason like long distance relationship, cheated on you etc. if its a friend its hard to avoid. she's the only one that can understand me and vice versa. like i sed we known each other since nursery. if i need someone to talk to its her and if i meet new people and i told them my problems, they might not understand what i'm going through but with her she does. i think that because we been so close made me more attracted to her.

1. i'll delete her number - she'll want to know why
2. if i talk to her, she'll think that it's a phase and that i should get over it

sorry to put my burden on all of you. but there's no one else i could talk to.

[Mattimadhead]

grow a willie? or just start flirting with guys..and that might take your mind off things..as youve obviously liked guys before

[Pearson]

Shag her.