Depression

[Sweet_Cherry]

How do you get over depression? plz answer
thank u

[Lindsay]

is this a self diagnosed case?

[~Wayne~]

Go to a doctors if its that bad...

[Luke]

Attention seeking.

[Pearson]

Attention seeking.

My thoughts on depression aswell.

[~Wayne~]

Is it the 'in thing' at the moment or something for kids?

[fuzzylumpkins]

I can't believe Im hearing this...someone asks for help, and you turn and call it attention seeking, and nothing. THis is ridiculous. Depression manifests in many ways, and a lot of it starts people realizing they are depressed and seeking help WITHOUT going to a doctor. Telling them they are attention seeking isn't helping anything, just making them feel worse. On threads like this, if you don't have something constructive to say, shut up!

Sweet Cherry, if you're looking for support for what you're feeling right now, I recommend depression.about.com . They have an excellent forum and chat room that is full of people going through the same sorts of things, and who are all more than willing to try to help you out. Its very obvious that you won't get support like that here.

[Luke]

I believe she is attention seeking. Ok?

[Sweet_Cherry]

what?! im just trying to find ways to not be as sad as i was/am. wat is ur problem?! because everything i try to do doesnt seem to make me "happy" and im just trying to find ways.

[~Wayne~]

Well the only way to get rid of depression is as I've said before

1. Realise lifes a bitch.

2. Ignore No.1 and have a good time!

[Pearson]

1. Grow up
2. Look at yourself in the mirror and realise that your being childish
3. Grow up again
4. Stop being so childish and attention seeking
5. Realise that everyone in life has problems.
6. Once more grow up.

[Sponge'K'nob]

How do you get over depression? plz answer
thank u
Theres different types of depression.
It can be hard to get over sometimes.
Don't listen to these about being attention seeking and all that shit, thats uncalled for, I get depressed and im not attention seeking.
How and why do you get depressed? just easier to know this before you can get over it..

[Luke]

I've seen depression before.

But, this just doesn't seem genuine. Either she's lying or exaggerating.

[Lindsay]

there's clinical and chemical depression. clinical is when an event in your life is causing you to be depressed, and chemical depression is when there is a chemical inbalance in your brain which requires medication. To find out if you are really depressed, not just sad, you need to go to a doctor.

therapy is one method for helping depression, and medication is another but thats only in worse case scenerios.

its normal to feel sad though. don't mistake just being blue for depression. With depression you will often feel tired, no motivation, you don't enjoy things you used to, you sleep a lot or not at all, you've gain or lost weight due to a larger or smaller appetite etc etc.

[Sponge'K'nob]

I've seen depression before.

But, this just doesn't seem genuine. Either she's lying or exaggerating.
like i said on skype..she hasnt told us her problem yet.
let her speak before we conclude if shes lying yet please.
Its not fair, and doesn't look good on the site if people don't let other members speak.

[Luke]

I am letting her speak. But I also will speak and have my opinion.

[Sponge'K'nob]

yeah thats ok to have your opinion, but if you are like this before people tell us what kind of depression or anything for that matter, then it puts them on the spot and might make them afraid to speak out.

[Bob!]

Keep this POSITIVE advice please guys, depression is actually a real thing which a lot of people experience and some need help to get through.

Some people may use it for attention seekeing but that does not mean that is the purpose of this topic, if you have positive (NOT HARSH) advice to give then make it so, if you have nothing negative to say, keep it to yourself, than you are not giving them the attention they seek if thats the case.

Also Sweet cherry, is this to do with relationships, (love, friends and familly) or just generally?

[Sponge'K'nob]

Keep this POSITIVE advice please guys, depression is actually a real thing which a lot of people experience and some need help to get through.

Some people may use it for attention seekeing but that does not mean that is the purpose of this topic, if you have positive (NOT HARSH) advice to give then make it so, if you have nothing negative to say, keep it to yourself, this is what this section is for.
exactly...cheers bob

[Pearson]

If you get given enough attention you wont become depressed. So depression is actually a form of attention seeking. Its like little kids, if they dont get attention they get mardy and start to cry. Depression is like the adult version of this. If you dont have people to share your problems with or you find it hard to trust it is quite likely that youl become depressed, the best way to deal with this is to tell people about your problems this giving you the attention that you crave. Thats not my opionion, thats fact.

[Sponge'K'nob]

If you get given enough attention you wont become depressed. So depression is actually a form of attention seeking. Its like little kids, if they dont get attention they get mardy and start to cry. Depression is like the adult version of this. If you dont have people to share your problems with or you find it hard to trust it is quite likely that youl become depressed, the best way to deal with this is to tell people about your problems this giving you the attention that you crave. Thats not my opionion, thats fact.
least thats better and less undermining than what you said before :)

[Luke]

Fuck it, I stand by what I said,

[Chris]

If she told us why she was feeling depressed we might be more understanding...

Someone close to me was diagnosed with depression about 10 years ago, its not a very nice thing to live with (obviously), and now they have to take medication every day, because of this is hate people who do it for attention, its f*cking stupid and selfish.

[clueless]

Don't be so quick to judge people. The solution might seem pretty straight forward to those who have never been affected and don't understand the psychological complications that come with depression, but that isn't always the case with those affected. Don't write it off as attention seeking and deem it trivial. Something which may be trivial to you might actually mean a lot to someone else. Things affect people in different ways. Be alittle sensitive.

[Lindsay]

If you get given enough attention you wont become depressed. So depression is actually a form of attention seeking. Its like little kids, if they dont get attention they get mardy and start to cry. Depression is like the adult version of this. If you dont have people to share your problems with or you find it hard to trust it is quite likely that youl become depressed, the best way to deal with this is to tell people about your problems this giving you the attention that you crave. Thats not my opionion, thats fact.

that is the most fucked up thing i think i've read on this forum. honestly pearson, i have no problem with you, but thats just fucked.

[PrincessAlice]

she hasn't explained into detail enough for people to take this serious she has not put why she feels "depressed" or "down"

funny i'm this but i agree with everything pearson has said

[Bob!]

If you get given enough attention you wont become depressed. So depression is actually a form of attention seeking. Its like little kids, if they dont get attention they get mardy and start to cry. Depression is like the adult version of this. If you dont have people to share your problems with or you find it hard to trust it is quite likely that youl become depressed, the best way to deal with this is to tell people about your problems this giving you the attention that you crave. Thats not my opionion, thats fact.

That actually sounds quite true actually, but also remember not everyone has someone they can go to or trust with their problems, as some people do need assistance with dealing with them which is what this section of the forum is for, as it is the advice section.

If you feel a post IS actually just there for the soul purpose of seeking attention then just dont post, then you are not giving that attention they are after, and if its blatent or goes against the moral forum rules then simply click the report button and it will be looked over by the mods. But if people come here asking for help in a seemingly genuine way then let them do it, and if you have any help for them then give it as most of you already have, just do not criticize people for doing this, remember different people have different reasons.

Anyways back on with the topic peeps, I'm moving this to general for the mo till the problem is diagnosed. :)

[Pearson]

that is the most f*cked up thing i think i've read on this forum. honestly pearson, i have no problem with you, but thats just f*cked.

I dont actually see what was written in that last paragraph that could have brought this response, wether you like it or not depression is a form of attention seeking, often its a feeling of not being loved, feeling there is no purpose to you or feeling that no cares about you, all feelings brought on by a lack of attention, then you crave the attention and become depressed.


she hasn't explained into detail enough for people to take this serious she has not put why she feels "depressed" or "down"

funny i'm this but i agree with everything pearson has said

What, you agree with me?!?!?!?!?

If you carry on like this maybe we'll even like each other one day!

[PrincessAlice]

lol not like i hate you pearson :p

[Lindsay]

I dont actually see what was written in that last paragraph that could have brought this response, wether you like it or not depression is a form of attention seeking, often its a feeling of not being loved, feeling there is no purpose to you or feeling that no cares about you, all feelings brought on by a lack of attention, then you crave the attention and become depressed.


clearly you have no idea what you're talking about. Yes, some people claime to be depressed to get attention but for others its a chemical imbalance in the brain which requires medication, something they have no control over. Feeling that no one cares about you, no motivation aren't signs of not getting enough attention. when you've actually got some experiance with depression, then you can make insensitive statements, but until then i think its wise to not.

[Angela_Sleeping]

Become a prostitute.

[Pearson]

clearly you have no idea what you're talking about. Yes, some people claime to be depressed to get attention but for others its a chemical imbalance in the brain which requires medication, something they have no control over. Feeling that no one cares about you, no motivation aren't signs of not getting enough attention. when you've actually got some experiance with depression, then you can make insensitive statements, but until then i think its wise to not.

So feeling that no one cares about you isnt a sign of not getting enough attention? Im sorry, but no matter how many chemicals you have in your head with the right amount attention no-one will feel that no-one cares about them.

Just because you disagree with something doesnt make it an insensitive comment, people have different views on things in this world, it doesnt make someone insensitive to have a view that might cause a reaction.

[Lindsay]

you're just trying to make people with depression look like attention whores, when its much more complicated like that.
You right, if no one pays attention to you, you would feel like no one loves you. but there are people in the world who have loving family and friends but are still depressed. Theres more to depression than just 'not getting enough attention'

the comments you made were insensitive pearson...


1. Grow up
2. Look at yourself in the mirror and realise that your being childish
3. Grow up again
4. Stop being so childish and attention seeking
5. Realise that everyone in life has problems.
6. Once more grow up.



If you get given enough attention you wont become depressed. So depression is actually a form of attention seeking. Its like little kids, if they dont get attention they get mardy and start to cry. Depression is like the adult version of this. If you dont have people to share your problems with or you find it hard to trust it is quite likely that youl become depressed, the best way to deal with this is to tell people about your problems this giving you the attention that you crave. Thats not my opionion, thats fact.


if you're going to try and be all hard and non-sympathetic, at leased take responsibilty for it instead of backpeddling out of it.

[Pearson]

I dont see how the second quote is insensitive, admitedly the the first paragraph was a little insensitive, bit too forward for some people.

[Lindsay]

i have no problem with posts being blunt, if the point they're making is right.

[Pearson]

It was, you're not explaining any of your post's your just handing out wild accusations without justifying them.

[Lindsay]

i have. I've explained in my past posts that just saying "depression is caused by people not getting enough attention" is a very wrong statement. What you said offended me, especially since you seem to have no idea what you're talking about. Some people have no control over being depressed, so telling them to get over it is like telling someone with down-syndrome to get over it. they can't help it.

[Pearson]

Of course they can, lets not compare down syndrome to depression, as there completely different things. With the right amount of attention and becoming a bit more determind anyone can battle through depression, that wont cure you of down syndrome will it?

Depression in my mind is also a state of how weak your mind is.

[Lindsay]

The i guess the people you have known to have depression are the type of attention whore because that couldn't be more wrong. Depression can range from being very mild, to severe where people kill themselves. its not just a matter of picking yourself up and moving on.

anyways, i'm not going to sit here and keep defending my point when this is going nowhere.

[Pearson]

Other than if you kill yourself you will move on from depression, you wont spend the rest of your life depressed. So yes, it is about picking yourself up and moving on.

If you have down syndrome you spend every day of your life, every second of your life with down syndrome. Someone who is depressed wont. Comparing them together was very insensitive wasnt it?

[qwassymodo]

What the frickin hell bizarro post did I walk in on?! Attention seeking?! Honestly, it's not something you can control. Example: Two people are asleep in bed. They both wake to find a bag of money at the end of their room. The first man leaps out and joyously accepts the money. The second man cannot get out, does not want the money. The second man is depressed.
The only advice I can offer is to live as though the world were the way it should be, to show it what it can be. It's hard and will take time. I wish I could be of more assistance. And don't listen to the posts above (the majority of them anyways...)
Godspeed.

[Pearson]

What the frickin hell bizarro post did I walk in on?! Attention seeking?! Honestly, it's not something you can control. Example: Two people are asleep in bed. They both wake to find a bag of money at the end of their room. The first man leaps out and joyously accepts the money. The second man cannot get out, does not want the money. The second man is depressed.
The only advice I can offer is to live as though the world were the way it should be, to show it what it can be. It's hard and will take time. I wish I could be of more assistance. And don't listen to the posts above (the majority of them anyways...)
Godspeed.

Maybe the second man is depressed because he's just slept with a man?

[Darts]

Ok the word 'depression' in this post is being severely abused. Kinda like the word 'love'....Depression is a mental illness and to be honest if it is serious enough to be classed as that then the best advice IS to go to a doctor. The only main options for that depends on the type of depression (e.g. unipolar or bipolar and whether you have an imbalance in neurotransmitters or hormones) and usually end up with counselling and/or a course of drugs.

I've never suffered from depression but I've had a few situations where counselling helped a bit. Especially when you laugh your arse of about how patronizing the counsellors are sometimes.
Anyway, if what's getting you down is more of a prolonged mood where every so often you feel really low, have slightly paranoid and largely negative thoughts then the best thing you can do is create a new state of mind. This can be achieved through exercise, being honest with your friends about how you feel and phrasing it in a way that they can respond easily and give you advice, and generally really trying hard to think positively.

There's only really you that can help yourself at the end of the day. Find something to take joy in that you can depend on, NOT a person for example. And good luck doing so :) hope this helps.

[guest]

If you think you have it and have not been diagnosed for it then you need to go visit your doctor.... They do have medicine to help with it but it won't cure it. I depends on you on whether or not you let it get to you, but seeing a therapist may actually help even more. I'm diagnosed with sever depression and ptsd and i was taking lexapro for it but it didn't work. but now my mom is not going to let me be put on medicine. I have 3 therapist and in a way they kinda help but it really depends on you b/c all they do is like listen they don't actually help by talkin except ther'e like that's bad abd shit.

if you have any more questions feel free to email me at myspace.com/tylersfiance