someone please tell me

[jm1]

I met this guy months ago who was just NUTS about me. He was interested in me and only me, but I wasn't feeling him so i didn't really talk to him. a short while later i ran into him again and this time we spoke and traded aim screen names. at first he used to im me as soon as i signed on, but now he doesn't talk to me at all. i'm still on his list though, he hasn't blocked me. why would he do this? why keep someone on your list if you're not going to speak to them?

i should also mention that we live far away from each other, and won't be seeing each other till september. is he just not talking to me cause he won't be seeing me for awhile?

[Hevz]

maybe bcos u didn't really seem interested the first time he thinks ur nt interested and has just given up!

[hollib21]

By the sounds of it, you didnt seem interested.
He seemed to be "interested" in you, but I think he took the hint and "moved on"
but I could be wrong.
I guess you will see in September.
If you realise that you are now interested in him, then Id try and contact him ASAP.

[jm1]

i ignored him when i first met him, not the second time. and if he was still holding it against me, why did he give me his screen name after and talk to me online?

some people have suggested that he may be scared to talk to me, or has nothing to say. i think he was scared to talk to me when we actually used to talk online. he has a friend of mine on his list as well. sometimes i would be online and he wouldn't say anything to me, but then a little while later, after i signed off and my friend was online he would immediately IM her and during their conversation he would mention stuff which he hoped she'd pass on to me. he even admitted to " trying " to get with me during one of their conversations, and she didn't ask him about it. he also told her that he thinks i'm " very pretty ". then a few days after all of this he suddenly stops IM-ing me but i'm still on his list.

what would you think?

[clueless]

Go talk to him. Maybe he is afraid that he was being too forward and decided to back off alittle now.

[jm1]

can someone please tell me what they would do/think if they were in the same situation??

also, i will be going to his school in september for a little while. we will definitely see each other. should i tell him that i'm coming before hand even though he never talks to me? will it be mean if i don't since he's given me the impression so far that he likes me?

[clueless]

Well, personally, i don't like sitting around and wondering when i could just go up to a person and find out about where they stand/what they think. If i were you, i would talk to him and find out. This way you will find out whether he really still is interested in you or just wants to know you as a friend or doesn't want to know you at all (i doubt this but you never know.)

Talk. Communication is the key.

[inluvwithim637]

ok maybe he told all your friends this but hes to scared to talk to you because he tolf your friend to tell you and hes scared of rejection???

or maybe since your friend is on his list...she might have a crush on him as well & could be IM-ing him behind your back telling him nasty things to have made him not want to talk to you anymore...

well if i was in this situation i would just let it go...a man thats not "dedicated" isnt worth SHIT...i tell you that from experience...plua he lives so far away & you can only see him in september??? wouldnt you want to spend more time than just a month with a guy??? well all i can say is give him his space and let him come to you...& check up on your friend...if shes a good friend and you comfront her...she tell you the truth...

aloha:
inluvwithim637