Heartbroken

[Sybella]

So, there is this boy that I know at this youthgroup. I feel so torn over him. I don't even know how to say it because I don't even know why I am so attracted to him. It's like I care so much for him. I live to see him happy. I can't breathe when I'm not near him. I swear sometimes that I need him to survive. It's crazy. But see he wanted to terach me to kiss with tongue and so I avoided that, mainly because I was already so taken with him. I knew that if I let him he'd quickly forget about me and I'd be left only more heartbroken then before. Well, stupidly, I let him anyways. And sure enough he ignored me after that. And I was so pissed and hurting that I stopped going around him for like a few weeks. Then, I felt I'd cooled off alot. I was over it, or so I thought. Then, I go back to the youth group and I see him again and instantly any walls I had built up were broken down. Then, he seemed to be playing with me again. We were alone in a room and he put his arm around me, and he was sitting just next to me. I hugged him, but was trembling, and then I pulled away and quickly left the room. He flirts with all these other girls and doesn't even glance at me, unless we're alone. And I'm dreading a move, because now I can see him...he lives just down the street...but soon I won't be able to see him. I want him to be happy, to be free to be with whoever he wants. But I can't even stand to not have him near me. I'm feeling so heartbroken. Advice?

[KiKiDee]

I know how you feel. It is a dark, sad place you are in. Almost like a narrow tunnel in which you can barely breathe and the light at the end has disappeared.
Experiences such as this have a way of stripping from us all our self-esteem and dignity. We begin to feel that we are not good enough and that if this person doesn’t want us, no one in the future will either.

Its hard when they ignore you, but on your own you two can be best friends. but you have to accept it because its either that or nothing. when you spent time apart and you thought you was over him, when you first see him, all those feelings you had come streeming back! the attraction will always be there, and yes your heart feels broken, but time is the best healer, meet someone else to take your mind off him. this partly for me worked. good luck hun xxx

[Guest]

Thank you...alot

[Sweetest.x.Sin]

My dear, you have to stop any communication you have with him, and don't even communicate with him or look at him or go near him, and just try to avoid him the best you can because it sounds like he likes taking advantage of girls.
He sounds like a Player and you don't need to feel anything for a Player, although I can understand these feelings you are having.
I assure you it is infatuation, and you will get over it in time.

[KiKiDee]

i understand what you are sayin, i tried this, but as i sed, once you do see him all the feelings come back. if she looses communication there will be tension between them both when they do see each other. me n my ex just sorted stuff out n now were best mates again. yeh i still have feelings but ive moved on! its the only thing you can do

[Iluvhismustang]

maybe he's flirting with the other girls because he doesn't want you to know that he likes you... so he gives you mixed signals.... or... he may not like you.... and he's just a flirty guy..... or maybe... he doesn't even know if he really likes you or not. I know kinda how you feel... i went thru something like that in 8th grade, it sucks... but you will get over it, just give it time

[ib0b]

He sounds kinda dumb. You should sell your stories so you can have something more than some guy to think about. Maybe you feel like there should be something important in your life like that, something that you can't live with out. This should never be a person, because people will always let you down in some way and are simply not perfect! Especially not someone who likes your body and wants to have sex with you more than to know who you are [ie male persons].