Pregnant because of rapist!!

[kattylover]

I was looking through a teenage magazine today and read about a teenage girl who got pregnant after being raped. If you were her, what would you do to the baby? Would you abort it or keep it?:hmmm:

[Mamfy]

Well, It's a difficult situation, because I would never want to kill an innocent child or anyone, but then I wouldn't want a child with someone I didn't know, and would never see again or with someone who forced me to.

I wouldn't want to bring a child up on my own whilst young, it would ruin my life. I already have thought about when I would like to have my first child and it's not in my teens!

So, I think I would have to abort:S Maybe, I don't know:(

[kattylover]

Yes its really difficult. I wouldn't want to kill an innocent baby. But if im going to raise it, I might not be able to forget what the rapist did to me and live in fear of unpleasant memories all my life. I might consider aborting it.

[zena]

hi!! hmm..well this is obviously the worst thing 4 a gurl!! If i were 2 b pregnant by a rapist(touchwood) i'll not abort the baby..i'll still bring it to this world..mayb i won't..no maybe i will..abortion's also bad..& giving birth & then givin it 4 adoption's also bad..so..it's really hard to decide!!

[~sexy_biatch~]

I wouldnt kill it, cos if killing that "baby" made me so i cant have kids ever i wouldnt forgive myself.
Also if you have that baby you no that 99% of the time you will be teaching the baby your way!!
I'd never give a child up, but thats something i have always believed about, even if i got pregnant now.

[Entice]

Well this is MY opinion, so if u dont like it, just ignore it.
I would abort it...some people argue about how its killing a human being, but technically in its early stages its just an egg. Also, raising a child at my age would not only plague my life but also the childs as im incapable of raising it. I dont want a child who will remind me of the rape.

[Mamfy]

Erm, just wondering, shouldn't this be in the 'Girls Only' Thread?

[Entice]

I dont think it really matters.

[Mamfy]

Well, boys can't reply

Just wondered thats all:confused:

[*fender.chiq*]

They can have their input though, lol.

And for me, I don't think I'd be able to keep the baby. It would be made up of part of that awful man who raped, I wouldn't be able to live with that. The memories would be part of that child, and it would haunt me forever.

I know it sounds wrong to give up your own child, either to abortion or adoption, but I'd feel forced by my own conscience to abort.

I'd rather have a child when I'm 30, in a stable, loving relationship where I know I can bring the child up knowing who the parents are and that it would be part of me and the poor guy who I'm married to!

[~sexy_biatch~]

wheres the girls only forum like?

[*fender.chiq*]

I thought that kaye.. lol.

[Mickey]

I'm not a woman but I wouldn't abord it. Abording a unborn child is like killing his or her own baby no matter if it's a child from a rapist... Of course it's very difficult to live with such a baby so the best thing that you can do is to hope that someone will adopt your child...

[LukeEv_17]

yeah i agree with u there matey

[kattylover]

Give it away for adoption. Do you think people would want it when they knwo its from a rapist. Its really a diff decision.

[Ellie]

I wouldn't really know unless I was in that situation. But I would imagine i wouldn't really want anything that would remind me of the rape, let alone a child. What would you tell them when they asked who their daddy was?

[LukeEv_17]

Give it away for adoption. Do you think people would want it when they knwo its from a rapist. Its really a diff decision. don't tell em its from a rapist

[Mamfy]

You can't lie to your child!

[LukeEv_17]

but think what effect it will have on them

[Mamfy]

Just don't have the kid!

[LukeEv_17]

so kill an innocent child

[~sexy_biatch~]

lmfao you sound like one of them people that tell you to do something but make you feel really guilty....kill an "innocent" child :P

[LukeEv_17]

yeah!

[*fender.chiq*]

Yes, but remember, abortion takes place at the earliest stages of life. It's not a fully formed baby by then. In some respects, it's simelar to eggs. We only eat the non-fertilised eggs.. The child hasn't yet been formed, so it's just a few cells.

It's not like you're taking a full grown child and culling it.

[LukeEv_17]

but in effect your still killing it

[~sexy_biatch~]

i know that. But the point is, if you have that done, it could harm you yourself and make you not able to have children again! i no the baby isnt a baby at that stage.. but thats me i would regret something like that if anything bad happened! and it does happen!

[LukeEv_17]

keep it and if u dont want it put it up 4 adoption at least then ur not killing it

[~sexy_biatch~]

yeah adoption! people always want to adopt :D

[LukeEv_17]

yeah and you will also be helping people who cant have their own children

[~sexy_biatch~]

people pulling together to make children and everyone happy....just so good to hear :D

[LukeEv_17]

yeah too right its good to hear and no one is killed

[*fender.chiq*]

There are so many children in care homes without a family though =(

And what would happen if you didn't want to 'kill' your child, or give it away, but didn't have the facilities or a stable income to support yourself and the child?

[~sexy_biatch~]

then you live on benifits

[*fender.chiq*]

Living on benefits isn't the most ideal situation really.

[Pearson]

you cunt have the kid!!!! think of the poor kid, knowing what had happend!!! if i were in her boots in abort!

[~*~ shefbabe ~*~]

i would prob abort it as i would probably hate the child due to the fact that its farther raped me and it would be best for the unborn child in long term but id still feel way guilty about doing that

[~sexy_biatch~]

its not the babys fault it was made as part of a rape :| poor child! lol

[kattylover]

Sending to a welfare home is a bad idea to me. I heard children being very unhappy in homes. They don't have the love and care like what we have with our parents. Maybe just keeping it is better. You will feel the pain of the memories but if you think positively, you might forget about it.

[~sexy_biatch~]

i would keep the child anyway...but thats me

[Pearson]

NO!! image how'd u feel if u was alive becuase some1 raped your mum! u'd end up a mess! U just cant have the kid, u would have to adort, u not killin owt!!!

[~sexy_biatch~]

then you would apreciate your mum MORE for keeping you

[Entice]

Personally i think that you just shouldnt have a child, if ur not going to be able to support them and urself.
Having a kid takes up a lot of time, somethin u cant waste during high school or uni (whatever).
Can u have the child and still live the same life?
Are u able to support it financially? Do u have the time? Effort?
Will u have someone to help u through the difficult times?
Can u handle the emotional/physical stress?
Are u capable of all the bullshit ull get from some people?
Also, giving it away wont come easy. You go through 9 months+labour to have the child. Can u easily give them away now? And even the child may go through tough times wondering why they were dumped.
Thats why i think its better to abort.

[xxrachxx]

if it was rape i would aport it, if i got pregnant any other way id keep it, wouldnt be able to kill it

[Oxide]

I'll never be pregnant, but if I were a girl in that situation I think I wouldn't abort it, but I would have the baby adopted after birth. There's no way I would be able to look at the kid without remembering what happened and I don't think I would be able to love the child as much as I would if it hadn't been forced upon me. I think adoption would be the kindest thing for both the kid and myself.

[Drunk_druid]

exactly, i think adoption is more sensible

[zena]

exactly, i think adoption is more sensible
i totally agree!!