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ladytweety
August 21st '06, 06:59 PM
ok, i have known this guy Mitch my whole life. his whole family is friends with my whole family. well both of us have always lived in colorado but last year he moved to maryland with his dad. well in april me and my dad moved to maryland too and we stayed with Mitch and his dad for the first month we were here. when i was living there i had told him how i felt about him. he always knew i liked him but we both didnt take it seriously ya know? .... well we had talked about starting a relationship but he was not ready for a relationship yet cause he had just got out of a bad relationship not too long ago ya know? so we just stayed friends. so that whole month i lived with him we spent every minute together, not just cause we lived together but even if he went out he would invite me, and when we were at the house he made a big effort to come in my room and say hi and ask how i was doing. every night we would hang out in my room and just watch tv, or talk. to guys this doesnt mean anything but one day we were home alone and we were watching tv in the living room, he had to go to work in about an hour so he decided to take a nap, well he had rested his legs over my lap and when i tried to get up he asked me not to leave cause he just wanted me there. that was so sweet :) ...... so i stayed. well another night we were driving around town, i cant remember where we were going but i know we were in the car. well we were talking about starting a relationship again, and he said he still wasnt ready but he asked me to wait for him, and not date anyone else, so i told him i would (theres no one else in this world i wanted to be with anyway so it wasnt a problem for me not to date anyone else) well a few weeks later me and my dad got our own apartment and we moved out. after the day we moved out Mitch didnt really talk to me. before i left he said nothing would change and we would still hang out all the time. but it did change, i saw him maybe once or twice a week if i was lucky. so about a month later he called and told me he was moving into my apartment complex. he moved in 2 weeks ago with his friend but things still did not change. he works graveyard hours and sleeps most of the day but even when hes off i dont see him. :( :confused: so last week i called him and we talked for like half an hour, he was home alone but when i asked him to come hang out he said he was too tired so i asked him if he still wanted me to wait or did we just forget about that and he said "well thats your choice" ok first of all, it was HIS idea for me to wait so how is it my choice? i just want to know if thats still what he wants ya know? i just really want things to go back to how they used to be and i dont know how to do that

swingxlifexaway
August 22nd '06, 06:15 AM
It's late (2 am), my sugar level's pretty dull right now, and my eyes are really weak. I may have not gotten all of that into my head. So I apologize, but:

You and Mitch obviously need to talk. You should call him, or simply just go visit him and talk to him. Look him straight in the eyes. Maybe mention having a relationship with him. Guys can get weird, and there always is a reason. Just talk to him. If he doesn't want to talk, then tell him that you are going to have to cut it between you too. This is risky, because he might actually take it seriously and never talk to you again. But sometimes, this causes the guy to bounce back up again and apologize. I don't guarantee you anything, except that maybe talking to him would be worse at least something.

I hope I helped. :D

taosc
August 23rd '06, 01:42 AM
tricky but liek swing said lads can get wierd sometimes i know ive done it myself. most of the time we dont mean to it just happens (like a period for men).
anyway either this mitch fellow as gone off of you or hes missing you and is expressing it in a really complex way. but my eyes hurt also as its now 230 in the am.
have you hung around with mitch lately.
and has he started hanging around with new people
maybe hes wanting time to get used to the new house and maybe hes getting tired
find out when his next day off his and make him go somewhere with you cinema or something have a fun day out and make him realise what you had before
hope this helps

oooo and talk lol