friends with boyfriends

[*DoBin*]

now i ma going thru this atm

my mates recelty got bfs and i haven'tnow i am bothred but still anyway

they been hanging out more and everything without me

now i no longer see them as friends after a fall out i had with them earlier on in the year
but i was wondering what u would do in my situtation

we have made friends but i don;t see them as best anymore but they do not know that

[*fender.chiq*]

I think there's a lot of instances where this kind of things happens.

I've been through one where the friends actually started to change to be more attractive to the guy, but she was changing herself and who she was instead. it was quite a sad thing to be losing her really :(

If you've made up with your friends, would spending more 'bonding' time together help you to grow close to them again?

[Mamfy]

Yeah, I think you should never lket a guy come in the way of your friendship.

Maybe you could talk to them about how you feel left out? If not, just spend more time with them and get to know them a lot deeper, who knows, they might set you up:P

[Entice]

Read through what i say before i post it. Half of that was really broken up.
However, id talk to them about it. Maybe they havent realised they've been leaving u out.

[Mamfy]

What I wrote was broken up?

[Bob!]

Eh?

Anyways lol. what ya sayins quite common, but ppl should reach a comprimise and balance tbh.

Anyways dont worry bout it, talked about that wi ya earlier.

[Jessicar]

They'll get a big shock and fall right back down to earth when/if they break up.

[Mamfy]

Goodness me you're a hit wit the ladies bob!!
You seem to be with everyone and know everything about all the girls!(even the new ones lol)

[Bob!]

Hah, I wish.

As I said b4 mamfy, quite the opposite tbh, Dunno why it seems that to ya.

Twas just random chance she added me on msn and later got discussin that situation thats all. Dont see how I can be a "hit" just by sayin hello in a welcome topic lol. http://img356.imageshack.us/img356/2224/sleep.gif

Anyways as to the topic, just try arrangin more girly nights out or whatever, or at least have them and their bfs all be together and tolerate u there as well. Yes its good to have sum privacy but a comprimise is needed if a friend is valued.

[Queen Shaqua]

I think u should just talk 2 them. Try not 2 sound demanding though, or u might push them away. Just gently let them know how u feel. If they're good friends, they'll understand, & everything will work out fine. In the end, friends come first, those relationships of theirs mite not last, and who will they go back 2? So don't worry 2 much about it.

[Mamfy]

Just what I said basically! SUmmed it up nicely:)

[*DoBin*]

thnx 4 the advbice ppl
i will talk to them soon

[Mudge = Myth]

just get a bf ya self n join in wiv em ;)

[*DoBin*]

yes but i would be getting a bf for all the worng reasons and i don;t mean like that

[*fender.chiq*]

DoBin, I am very, very glad you've seen sense there. Some people would have just picked up any guy so they'd fit in with their friends, but boyfriends aren't something you use as a status symbol to fit in and 'be cool'.

You should only go out with a boy when you're ready and you like the guy.

And the solution to this problem.. I don't think it would be solved by picking up any old guy really..

[*DoBin*]

excatly its like having bf is the new fad or somthing
its all the medias fault

[Drunk_druid]

wow...guys being used as status symbols...usually its the gals. I hate the whole rage about having a gf its stupid, u should only hav a gf if you really like them!

[Mamfy]

Too true, or a boyfriend in our cases!

People just think that because they have a boyfriend or a girlfriend that they're cool and better than everyone. ANd it does not mean that! Some people jus thaven't found the right person yet and are being sensible and waiting until they have:)

[Drunk_druid]

exactly :)

[*+*BeCcI*+*]

all my friends have bf's but i still see them all the time .. but i have a few groups of friends so when sum arnt cummin out i go with others but most of my friends are lads and when they have g.f's its like they have migrated or summat they neva cum out unless they wid the girls .. so it is good to have more than one group of friends but i wouldnt worry if one of your frinds splits up then they will need somone to talk to. your not alone not having a bf tho i havent! lol

[Queen Shaqua]

It's nice to see that there are ppl with sense out there!
I know a lot of girls that would go out with any1 or anything in order to be popular, and frankly, it's sad. I wud never be able to go out with some1 I didn't like. Relationships aren't about being cool - they're about being with some1 u like and care about.

[Drunk_druid]

i hav girls who are friends (a lot actually) and sum hav bfs and sum of my mates hav gfs! but it hasnt changed most of them...one or two change but thats cos they try to impress...hrm im odd

[kattylover]

It's nice to see that there are ppl with sense out there!
I know a lot of girls that would go out with any1 or anything in order to be popular, and frankly, it's sad. I wud never be able to go out with some1 I didn't like. Relationships aren't about being cool - they're about being with some1 u like and care about.

Yeah i totally agree. Its not always a must to have a bf or gf. Its not like you're going to die without a bf or gf. You have to take it slow in a relationship and be respectful of each other. Relationships are there so that you can share your happiness and troubles together.

[Queen Shaqua]

I totally agree.