This is so unexpected!!! Death :(

[debramarten]

My grandfather (mom's dad) died yesterday unexpected. He was only 68. My mom is so totally not herself, like she has been lying in bed crying for 2 days! I loved my grandfather but he lived 3 states away, so really I have only seen him a few times in my life.
Although I did love him I can't really feel the pain that my mom must feel. I have tried to comfort her but evertime I do she grabs me and starts crying on my shoulder and saying that we kids (me and my sister and brother) take our dad for granted, and we should never take him for granted.
This depresses me because all of us kids have a decent relationship with the both of our parents but sometimes we just don't really show it outwardly.
So why does my mom turn her grief into something unbearable for all of us? I think my mom is using this as a reason to feel sorry for herself and the same time make all of us miserable. I would like some advice...thanks

[God.]

I think her reaction is completely understandable.

I think it is you, who needs to be more understanding. Her father has just dies for Christs sake, how do you expect her to react?

You should be comforting her, instead of going on online forums and complaining about her grieving.

[~Wayne~]

Unbearable? Ffs whats up with you? Its your mum for christ sake!

I'd like to put this nicer but I've been through this and I think you must either be dead on the inside or just plain inconsiderate.

Its one of the worst things that can ever happen to someone just show some sympathy!!

[Kate]

well said Jesus

But sorry about his death

[Bob!]

True, yer mums cryin because she must have been really close to her dad, hell ur parents are the closest things ull ever have, even if ya do hate em.

If she was shouting at u lot and stuff then even tho it be understandable itd be a bit harsher but shes upset and cryin ffs, give her some comfort.

Since shes lost her own dad now, besides her mum (if shes still alive) and her husband then u kids are the closest things she'll have as well.

Next time shes cryin or whatever, give her a bloody cuddle, will make her feel a hellova lot better as she'll see what she still has left, instead of just seen what she doesn't have. which is kids that don't even understand when theyre parents are upset.

[beth92]

i know how you feel my granddad died a year ago and it was my dads dad and it very upsetting but i hadonli ever met him once in my life because he travveled and he was only 61
i would just comfort your mum as much as you can and give her a bit of time to get over her loss she probably doesnt mean to say the stuff that she is
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