I want a gf

[CJB]

I want to have a girlfriend but I dont think i can. I liked one girl but she told her friends that i was following her around. And i WASNT! It was a load of crap or paranoia. She was going out with someone anyway. And now i want to have a gf but i dont think anyone likes me like that. Anyway how can i get a girlfriend? Not just anyone someone whod be special to me.

[Bebot]

just be urselfi like that in a guyand dont post a thread like thismakes u look desperatewhich of course ur not;)

[buthy-13]

f you want to be "the one", here's how. Or at least, here are things to help you out on the way. Steps


Obviously, it helps if you genuinely care about her. However, as bad as this sounds, it's not a necessity.
Certain compliments that you might give initially, while certainly sounding nice and possibly genuine, sound trite and cliche. Examples of things not to compliment include her eyes (whether they're beautiful or not, she's heard it a million times. If you use this one, save it for later-- it won't get you points initially.), her smile, her breasts (NEVER), basically anything physical. By you showing interest in her in the first place, you've already given her a sign that you find her physically attractive. No one sees a girl at a bar and says "Gee I think she has a nice personality", so avoid the physical comments-- at least for now. When you're admiring her physicality uncovered, then perhaps a comment would be appropriate.
Things you SHOULD comment on-- anything that is a genuine extension of her personality and/or mind. If you see paintings in her house, or if you notice her wearing a certain band's t-shirt, if she wants to save the world in Africa, there's no real catch-all, but the trick is to find something about her that sets her apart from other girls, particularly in terms of her intellect. Tell her that you love how smart she is, and that conversations with her always make you think. For bonus points, tell her that she challenges you--but that you love that about her. Trust me-- this works, with any woman, anywhere, any circumstances.
Focus on her eyes in your conversation. Even drifting down to the lips is dicey. The Egyptians thought eyes were the window to the soul-- and they never got slapped.
Never. Ever. Ever. Use a pick-up line-- UNLESS you can do it in such an obviously exaggerated way that she laughs at how cute you are. This takes practice and poise-- odds are that if you're reading this, you're short on both.
Do the things that you see in movies. They're called "chick flicks" for a reason. Want to score huge points? Try the following: deliver flowers to her at school or the office (the more of her girlfriends/coworkers to watch, sigh, and blabber about what a sweet guy you are, the better you will be), leave a rose and a note (something short and sweet, like a line from her favorite song. Dave Matthews' Crush works great) on her car windshield while she's in class or at work (for bonus points, and if you're stealthy, leave one on her windshield at night while she's asleep. Make sure the rose is long stem. Wait for the ecstatic "you're-the-sweetest-guy-ever" call in the morning), when you're out to dinner tell the waiter that it's her birthday.
One of the biggest point-scorers of all: Call her, and tell her that you were just thinking of her. For reasons unknown to scientists, this increases your standing in her book tenfold.
Hold doors. Hold car doors. Hold house doors. Hold restaurant doors. Pull out her chair. PUT YOUR NAPKIN IN YOUR LAP. Don't ever attempt to order for her. Say Please and Thank you-- to everyone, not just her. Don't interrupt when she's talking. Walk her to her door (ASK PERMISSION FIRST). I know none of that sounds like pearls of wisdom, and is stuff your mother has told you since you were 5, but the truth is, it works. Being a gentleman works-- you'd be surprised how many guys out there don't act like gentlemen-- this makes you look so much better.
Don't call too much-- this gives you a stalker vibe. Instead, plan your calls strategically, with a purpose for each. Call her the night of/the day after the date to tell her you had a good time, and MAKE PLANS FOR THE NEXT DATE THEN, while she's sitting there remembering what a good time she had.
However, some girls do like when their boyfriend calls them a lot. You might want to try hinting, by saying something like "I always think about you! I keep wanting to call you" and if she says something playful back, such as "well, why don't you?" then you know its okay. You need to figure out what kind of girl she is first.
Treat her with absolute respect, at all times. If you don't respect her, and she's a woman with self-respect, you'll get no where. If you don't respect her, and you get somewhere, it's because the girl has no self-respect, and there's no victory in that for you either. The key to wooing any girl is to make her feel unique, special, and cared for by a great, charming guy. If you are confident-- and keep your wit about you-- you should have no problem.
Find something that's your "signature"-- something you do that no one else has, or that no one else has a lot. A hand kiss isn't done often in this day and age, and brings with it bonus points for being a gentleman and being romantic. A forehead kiss is a sure-winner, but is often overused. Something simple that sets you apart. You need to be set apart from every other guy she has dated or will date in her mind and in her heart. Good luck.


Tips


A simple one here, but one that is often the hardest one to obtain. Be yourself, smile and honest. You'll find with anyone, just being you is a 100% sure fire way to knowing if you are meant to be or not. Yes it sounds logical, but you be surprised about how Walter Mitty us men can be to give off the impression that we are James Bond, when in reality we are all just doing our thing day in, day out.
Never, never, NEVER talk about other girls around her unless you're saying how much better she is than them, and even then, don't do it too often. The only exception to this is if she asks for your opinion on a certain girl, and if you compliment said girl in any way, make sure to reconcile with a compliment to her.


Warnings


Don't be too fast in your love for her. Don't take her on for something she's not ready for...
Generic, maybe, but don't tell her you love her unless you truly do.spamed for help

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[mean_girl]

^ that might help
and dont think about it much, youre only 15, youve got a long way to go
i know alot who are 15 and still dont havd bf\gf's
i i were you i wouldnt really care about it, take your time and youll fine yourself in a relationship

[buthy-13]

lol

i used to be very happy single but i'm happy now to :D

i'm watchin ya metal :rolleyes:

[Bob!]

dont post a thread like thismakes u look desperatewhich of course ur not;)

This is the exact section of the forum to post threads like this. The guy aint being stupid, just asking for advice, which is what this section is for. Plus this aint a datin forum so it doesen't matter.

Anyways dude just be yaself and hope ya find someone you like, and who likes you back. Yer only 15, theres still a lotta time to go yet, though I can relate to how yer feelin pretty well lol.

[Bebot]

umm i think that was advice
but since u erased the whole first part you cant tell
so just dont

[Bob!]

Yes the first part was advice and totally ok, which is why I only quoted the second part :P

Just saying don't dissuade members into post and asking for help, no matter how stupid/desperate or whatever they may look, as long as its a legit request for advice, opinions or help then tis all welcome :)