Depressed

[angelbaby0412]

Ive been with my bf for 3 years..well a few weeks ago i almost cheated on him...but i didnt n he found out..that i almost cheated on him..and now he wont listen to me..but anyways thats the background info...well since friday morning..ive been so depressed..i really cant live without him..hes my world n the only reason im still alive is becuz his mom keeps telling me that he loves me n wants to b with me..but ive been cutting myself like crzy..and ive been crying everyday n everynight..i wont smile at all..everything i do it reminds me of him..we arent broken up but we arent happy..does that make any since..but i havent cut for 3 years..and now that im loosing the boy i love so i just want to know if i should just suck it up n forget bout him...cuz i dont want to keep cutting myself...ive tried doing like 20 million other things but i keep coming back to cutting myself..and i dont know y..i wanna stop

[TheMan]

You shouldn't have lied to him.

[PrincessAlice]

if what your mam says is true about that he loves you and wants to be with you then you need to work at it otherwise you will regret it if you don't. you will loose him forever if you don't work at it........... if you need anyhelp PM me i'm more then willing to help you :) good luck xx

[TheMan.Bitch!]

What you should do is : GO TALK TO HIM. Put the lights on, throw your knife or w/e you use to cut yourself n the garbage, stop the bleeding, take the phone, dial his number, and excuse yourself. Problem solved.

And if he loves you as much as his mom is telling you, he will forgive you. But if he doesn’t, well move on.

[PrincessAlice]

yeah i argee with TheMan go talk to him

[Darts]

As soon as he believes that you didnt cheat on him he will forgive you, but if he doesnt you will just have to try to understand because its not fair to expect him to. Although I don't see why he wouldnt especially if he loves you, it might take time though so dont think he doesnt just because things dont come around straight away.

Remove all temptation from you, get rid of razors, knives etc and ask your mum to keep them or something. Get her to keep checking on you, or someone else who is close to you.

And don't forget whatever happens will happen you have to put a brave face on and smile with it, everything IS going to be ok so brace yourself! Believe his mum to a certain extent but make sure you know the truth from him because sometimes parents dont know their kids nearly as well as they think they do, although that isnt their fault.

Best of luck to you hun and well done for not actually cheating on him.

[lishiewadlow]

Girl....
You just need to go to him, confess what you did was wrong and go back to being happy. I you really love him and he really loves you, you can go back to being a happy couple. My boyfriend and I had an issue like this once. If you'd like me to explain PM me.

[Amy-x]

Maybe before you NEARLY cheated, you should have thought first, but forget the past, no-one can change it. concentrate on your future. if its over between you and this boy, forget about it. if its not, work on it. cutting yourself might make him think your weird or mental, and not like you. everytime you cut yourself, think of it as breaking wires in your relationship, and it should help you stop cutting yourself!! You need to stop before you REALLY hurt yourself. make sure your always doing something, so you dont have chance to cut yourself. And, DONT EVEN THINK ABOUT THE WORD SUICIDE:suicide: !! Hope my Advice helps x :D

[xMissIzzyx]

I agree with everything everyone has said
But
I have to be a bit harsh here, and if people don't agree then tell me and remember this is just my personal opinion..
It's a lad. One guy. One. There'll be plenty of other guys out there. Maybe this guy is the one, and maybe you'll end up together, but excuse me for being sadistic, I doubt it. I was with a guy for almost a year, we made eachother happy, were in love, and because he had "suspicions" which, for the record, were untrue, he stopped being so nice and happy and eventually we split up. I self harmed, cried, tried to kill myself a few times, and started taking drugs. However, it didn't help. He was my first true love and I thought we'd end up together forever. We didn't. I've been self harming since I was 10, for lots of reasons, and I've tried to kill myself 3 times. I'm still here, I dunno why, but I am, and all I got from cutting were scars and experience. There's different ways to take anger out. I'm now on lots of antidepressants and medication and to be honest, my life's totally fucked. But I'm a strong person and I got through it. If you're not happy together, get over him and leave him alone, and get out there into the world and find someone else. Don't be tempted to cheat, don't lie, and don't take it out on yourself. There's better things to do with your life and more important things to worry about than a guy. You're too young to commit yourself so strongly. If every time you get out of a relationship you start cutting yourself and getting depressed, you're going to live a very sad, lonely, unexperienced life.

[Bebot]

u shud appologize and just talk to him before u end up losing him 4ever!

[Tami]

okay im gong to address the cutting, because i have a few questions i wish to ask you and a few things to share.

Firstly are you cutting bcause you want to commit suicide or just for the pain aspect?

Secondly when you self harmed before how did you stopand were the reasons that you were self harming then anything like the reasons you are now?

Have you tried reading the suggestions on the top of this part of the fourm that shane created? the ones to do instead of cutting.

and if you are cutting to try and kill yourself i would like to reind you:

Suicide is a perminant fix to a TEMPORY (sp?) Problem

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