Need Girl Advice! HELP!!!!!!

[Wiscsports1234]

I'm friends with this girl. We have been friends for about 5 years. I don't know how she feels, but I've always considered her my best friend. She lives right across the street from me. For the past couple of months I have begun having this huge crush on her. I like her so much. I've found myself to be completely miserable when I'm not with her for a couple of days. Sometimes I feel that I could actually love her. She usually comes over everyday, but with her 3 year old brother. I love it when we can have a conversation just her and me. After the conversation I just feel so much more in love with her. But there is one minor problem. I'm 15 and she's 12. She is so mature, it's like being with a 14 year old easy. She is so beautiful and I've never felt this way about a girl before. And since she has reached puberty in the past year she is so much more hot. Sometimes I can't sleep with her on my mind. When she comes over I try to flirt with her by hitting her and throwing stuff at her in a playful way. It makes her smile and oh my god, it's the best smile that you could ever see. She usually does the same thing, hitting and throwing things at me too. And when I pick on her by saying something she always says "Shut Up" but in a way that I can't tell whether she actually wants me to shut up or actually likes when I pick on her. I usually say "What's with those two words?" and then she smiles and laughs a little bit. On Tuesday we had a huge storm come through that wiped out the electric and brought down some trees. That night before she left we just talked about the storm and school and stuff and it was so great. The next morning, with the power still out she stayed home from school. She came over at 9:30a.m. in the morning and we hung out. And since everyone else was in school it was just us and again her little bro. But it's like he's never there. She was over at my house for about 4 hours. I thought maybe the reason she came over was because she was bored, but she never calls for me at 9:30a.m. in the morning. We have never hung out before at that time and it was strange. Could her coming over that early mean that she likes me? And lately she has tried to sit right next to me. Maybe about 3-5 inches apart when we would usually be about a foot apart. I'm just so confused. Oh yeah, with the age thing of almost 3 years. 2 years 10 months and 24 days to be exact, would that be a problem? Her family has never had a problem with me and my family thinks she is really nice.

QUESTIONS I REALLY NEED ANSWERED
Could her coming over at 9:30a.m. mean she likes me? Is she flirting with me? Does she know I'm flirting with her? Are there ways I could be flirting better? Would her family have a problem with the age thing, mine wouldn't I know? And when should I tell her I like her? Should I wait until after she turns 13 or what? She has never had a boyfriend before so don't want to scare her off.

HELP ME PLEASE, REPLIES ARE VERY MUCH APPRECIATED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Stephanie]

This girl is diffinately head over heels for you!! I think you should diffinately find the right time and ask her out!! But the problem is that her parents might not like the idea of their little girl already dating at this age. So I don't know...maybe you should wait till her 13th birthday? I think it would be so beautiful and sweet if you asked her out on her birthday. What a birthday pressant!

[Mamfy]

I think you are doing enough to show you like her, and by the way she is responding to you gives me the impression that she likes you back! I think it would be a good idea to just sit down with her and just say that she is really special to you and that she means a lot to you, and that lately your relationship has grown and you are starting to like her in a different way. She needs to know how you feel so she can make a decision about you two. You could let her choose what she wanted to do, and let her know that you wouldn't pressure her in any way. I think knowing her for so long, and getting to know her family and her family getting to know you it makes it a lot easier because they have begun to respect and trust you! I don't think they would mind too much as long as you don't change, you stay the same great person you were with her being a friend. That way they won't lose and trust in you as a person. I hope it works out well for you, and just remember, she is your best friend, don't hurt her or you'll lose the best friend you've ever had!

Good luck and report back with feedback!:D

[Wiscsports1234]

Thanks for the advice!!! Still haven't been by her since Wednesday, but Friday after school she waved at me and earlier today I think I caught her staring at me. I was in my living room and I looked out the window and saw her staring at me. I kept looking at her and I think she was looking back at me when I went to the kitchen. When I turned around I almost killed my mother...lol. Walked right into her...lol. Anyway thanks again for the advice and I will report back if something interesting comes up. More feedback appreciated!!!

[~sexy_biatch~]

From what you have said its obvious she knows you like her.
Even if shes only 12...
I dont think the age difference is a problem, if anything its a good thing. Maybe be thinks your cool because your older...can do more things, might seem like a "bad boy" :o wow 9:30 is early for her to get up, and actually get ready even though she didnt have school!! I would say thats a good thing. Out of anyone, she thought of coming to see YOU!
From what you have said i would say...yes she is flirting with you!
Yes i think there is something you can do...to break the ice more. When she moves that 3-5 inches away from you, move closer! And just do the same things your doing.
Is she forward or shy??
She wont be scared of you...even though she hasnt had a boyfriend before.
Do you get on well with her parents? Try to make a good impression and have a laugh with them. Are they young and "with it"?
They most probably wont have a problem with you if you show them how much you make her laugh, even if its not a full on relationship, take it steady and it might work out ok! good luck!

[random-lemons]

Im not quite sure what to suggest, if you really like this girl then you should ask her out but i think you should wait until she's 13. This way the age gap wont be so big which may help her parents understand more. This is because i dont know if parents would feel comfortable with a 15 year old dating a 12 year old.
From what you said, it looks pretty obvious that she likes you as well, so maybe you should wait until she is 13 because she isnt going to change her mind.
Good luck and tell us what happens.

[Wiscsports1234]

From what you have said its obvious she knows you like her.
Even if shes only 12...
I dont think the age difference is a problem, if anything its a good thing. Maybe be thinks your cool because your older...can do more things, might seem like a "bad boy" :o wow 9:30 is early for her to get up, and actually get ready even though she didnt have school!! I would say thats a good thing. Out of anyone, she thought of coming to see YOU!
From what you have said i would say...yes she is flirting with you!
Yes i think there is something you can do...to break the ice more. When she moves that 3-5 inches away from you, move closer! And just do the same things your doing.
Is she forward or shy??
She wont be scared of you...even though she hasnt had a boyfriend before.
Do you get on well with her parents? Try to make a good impression and have a laugh with them. Are they young and "with it"?
They most probably wont have a problem with you if you show them how much you make her laugh, even if its not a full on relationship, take it steady and it might work out ok! good luck!

If what you mean by forward is that she talks about personal stuff then no.

I don't talk to her parents but they know I'm a nice guy or I think they do. Her parents are late 20's or early 30's but I don't know if they are with it.

[~sexy_biatch~]

If what you mean by forward is that she talks about personal stuff then no.

I don't talk to her parents but they know I'm a nice guy or I think they do. Her parents are late 20's or early 30's but I don't know if they are with it.

No i dont mean forward like that, i mean like is she flirty and talk alot? doesnt have to be personal..but like is she good at making conversation.

If her parents are that young they might understand more! and think of you better...if you know what i mean.
Have you seen the girl again recently?
hope it all goes well!

[timswfc]

i wunt bother with her m8....once u turn 16...u wnt b allowed 2 hav sex wiv her...u cud get dun 4 sumet

[Mamfy]

Just because you are in a relationship with someone doesn't immediately mean you should have sex with them! Some people like to build up a mental relationship with each other because sex is a very big step to take.

[*fender.chiq*]

Agreed Mamfy.

I wouldn't go and have sex with any guy just because I was going out with them.

Sex is a pretty big step from the start of a relationship really..

[Mamfy]

Exactly what I think. I want my first time to be special. not with some stranger I'll never meet again.

[~sexy_biatch~]

EVen if he was 16 n he had sex with her....doubt she would when she wa 12 though. But if they wanted to its upto them and if ther parents dont mind...sex is a natural thing. If he really liked her he wouldnt force her into anything anyway!

[Bob!]

Tis not natural at 12 kaye.

Edit: K then lol, just sounded like it. http://img356.imageshack.us/img356/3072/blink.gif

[~sexy_biatch~]

Bob you know fully well i didnt mean that

[D3c3p7ioN]

i wunt bother with her m8....once u turn 16...u wnt b allowed 2 hav sex wiv her...u cud get dun 4 sumet
Lol man that's a funny comment.

Anyway shes 12 and you're 15?....12?.......12?!?!.....12??!?!?!?!?!
wtf I think overall that is completely messed up.

[Bob!]

Only 3 years inbetween deception.

Though thats the max id go, and age gaps seem wayyyy bigger the younger ya are lol.

[Wiscsports1234]

No i dont mean forward like that, i mean like is she flirty and talk alot? doesnt have to be personal..but like is she good at making conversation.

If her parents are that young they might understand more! and think of you better...if you know what i mean.
Have you seen the girl again recently?
hope it all goes well!

If hitting you and picking at you alot is flirty then yes. Yeah she talks alot!!!!!!! But it's nice talking to her.

Yeah I saw her Sunday. I was outside playing basketball and she came over. Talked a little bit, played tennis, picked on her until she laughed. Then she went in for a little bit. My cousin's came over and we got a huge soccer game going in the street with the neighborhood kids. She came back out and was on my team. We were losing 12-3. My goalie sucked miserably. She became the goalie and we stormed back to make it 13-9. I complemented her saying that she was doing a really good job and man she doesn't take a complement well!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Everytime I did tell her she was doing a good job she would just say "Shut Up" in a voice when you're trying to hold in a laugh. My cousin's and I went in to eat and called it halftime at 13-9. I didn't eat much so I could go back out and we stood by each other alot. I don't know if it was a coincidense or what. She went in to eat and we continued playing. I was the goalie and allowed two goals. She came back out and laughed at me when she saw I was goalie. I'm not that good at goalie I'm more of a scoring threat. Anyway, she said she would be goalie and I let her and then as I was walking back into the mix of players she hit me in my arm and I have a little soreness today...lol. Anyway the score ended up being 15-15 I think in the first game and we whopped them 12-2 in the second.

I hoped I would have seen her today, but didn't hopefully tomorrow. And since I'm home schooled, I hope to "accidently" run into her on her walk home from the bus stop while getting a "ball" from the neighbor's yard.


i wunt bother with her m8....once u turn 16...u wnt b allowed 2 hav sex wiv her...u cud get dun 4 sumet

I don't know where sheffield is, but when you're 16 you're still a kid here in USA. I don't have any plans to have sex with her until she wants to and we have a open discussion about it which wouldn't until she is 18 or so and I'm 20/21. She is a good girl type and I'm a shy guy type pretty much until I'm around her. I wouldn't mind waiting for her. She means more to me than anything else in the world other than family of course.

[Pearson]

Americans and football ay!!!

'I'm not that good at goalie I'm more of a scoring threat.' that made me laugh.

but come on youth, 12?!?! you out of your mind, ul get dun for summet! 3 years age gap int that bad when your older but a 12 year old and a 15 year old's just wrong!!!

Sheffield is in england and once your 16 you can have sexual intercourse over here

[~sexy_biatch~]

Yeah it doesnt sound so bvad over in America as they have different rules over ther to over here.
12 isnt that young...i was mature enough at 12 to have a relationship...well kinda! lol
From what you have said i can tell you really really like her and its obvious she feels the exact same way about her. Just catch any moment you can to talk to her, maybe bump into her on her way home from school a few times, but why dont you go there to meet her and walk her home? she might like that!

[Wiscsports1234]

but why dont you go there to meet her and walk her home?

Even though I have the time she gets home already memorized at between 2:55p.m. and 3:00p.m. it would just seem weird. I've never done that before.

Well today she came over with her little bro and we played soccer again. My one cousin is really good at soccer and having to play against him much of the time on Sunday made me good. I was faking her out and doing moves on her that I never knew I had. Anyway we got a little physical (bumping into each other) and stuff like that. And hit her with the ball a few times on accident. And much of the time she looked to be smiling at me. I didn't really joke around that much, but she smiled alot. Everytime I looked back she was smiling and I smiled back. We didn't really talk that much either. My neighbor's grandson who is 5 came over and she didn't mind, but then when a group came over ranging from 8 to 12 came over she left. They are kind of an annoying group, but also made me wonder if she just wanted to be alone with me other than her little bro and the little kid next door.

[D3c3p7ioN]

Only 3 years inbetween deception.

Though thats the max id go, and age gaps seem wayyyy bigger the younger ya are lol.
No I don't mean that...if she was 17 and he was 20 thats ok...but 12 is just wrong.

[BleedBlack]

No I don't mean that...if she was 17 and he was 20 thats ok...but 12 is just wrong.

yeah, no offence, but i sorta agree. my sisters are 12 and if any 15 year old tryed to touch them i'd rip their balls off.

[pressure]

QUESTIONS I REALLY NEED ANSWERED
Could her coming over at 9:30a.m. mean she likes me?
Is she flirting with me?
Does she know I'm flirting with her?
Are there ways I could be flirting better?
Would her family have a problem with the age thing, mine wouldn't I know?
And when should I tell her I like her?
Should I wait until after she turns 13 or what?
She has never had a boyfriend before so don't want to scare her off.

HELP ME PLEASE, REPLIES ARE VERY MUCH APPRECIATED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


i thinks he does like you, but because she is young, it may be a small crush.
it has been said that if you play fight withe achotehr there is something between two people,
i think her family would have a prblem with your ages because she is aint a teenager yet, so they might think she shouldnt have the feelings youve got for her.
i would wait til she is a teenager to tell her anything, wait a few months after her birthday and see if things are still the same, if they are then tell her how you feel but dont expect things to come out smelling of roses
im sorry mate, its not nice to say it might not work but unfortunately taht could be the case, jus preparing you :)

if a few months after she turns 13 you both feel the same, tell her how you feel, but please mate dont expect miracles

iv been through something similar and its not all good