I have no social life.

[tomr]

I barely have friends, and the ones a have I rarely hang out with them. Also, I don't even talk much with them either. I feel like I don't have a life. I don't know much about movies, music, sports, tv, girls, or even having conversations. The only thing i like to do is playing games on my computer or xbox. How can I get a social life? I have some other questions too, like how often do you guys hang out with friends, what are your conversations like, how much text messages or myspace messages you get, etc. I don't know anything about social life.

[Dani_x]

maybe cut down on the amount of time you spend gaming, and arrange things with the mates you have.
I only see my mates at collage and very rarley out of collage. i dont have much of a social life but thats because id rather go and spend time with my bf and the only texts that i tend to get are off my bf or family..mainly my bf. but then again alot of my mates are always with there bfs/gfs. but before that we was always out and about.
Really-like i said, try cutting down on the time you spend on the comy and that and arrange stuff to do with your mates..like ask them if they fancy bowling or going to the pics.

[~Wayne~]

Grab your x box and throw it out the window :)

[InsaneEffect]

You're just like me. I have Social Anxiety Disorder, and because of it I never socialize. It's gotten so bad that when I do I can hardly keep a conversation going. It's sad. Anyway, as mentioned before, cut back on the games and go out and join activities. That's the only thing I can offer.

[Luke]

Play sports. Watch sports.

Get on the phone to a few mates and ask them if they wanna go out.

That's it, really.

[xMissIzzyx]

Just get out of your house. Even if it just means sitting outside a shop and atching people walk past, it's better than nothing. Join a club or some shit, dunno if stuff like that actualyl helps cos I hated shit like that but meh I have friends lol
I only hang around in small groups but going into town and going to nightclubs and stuff really helped expand my social status and I met so many great people. There's so many people in the world surely some of them will like you :) There are probably a lot of people with the exact same issue as you trying to think of a way to get out of it, it's mainly down to willpower.
I'm always with my friends because if I'm not I get upset easily, it's hard to explain but when I'm on my own I get really distressed, my two best friends always know when they need to be here for me cos when I get really down I can get really suicidal and they know when it happens and know that sometimes they need to be with me to stop me going psycho on myself or other people.. but as I said I'm quite happy with just one or two people. Go into town or something, find people on myspace in your area or from your school/old school, whatever
trust me, there's so many ways to meet people :) just find one that works well for you
good luck (Y)

[konfuSed_akko]

I totally agree with xMissIzzyx!!

jus go have fuuunn!!! thats lyfe mate!

[Kate]

Yeah, join clubs.
Pick something that you enjoy, then google local clubs in your area.
Great way to make friends.

[emo-bass-rocker]

Ask your friends if you can hang out with them...get to know them more. Watch T.V, listen to different varieties of music. try new things basically. gd luck xXx<3xXx

[Will]

What do you mean? Playing on the Xbox is all the social life you need... I got off with Bastila the other day ;)

[Shane]

MSN, MySpace, Teen Forums, Bebo, MingleVille & Hundreds of other Forums I am a member of. = Social life for the masses. :)

[BlueEyes]

You're exactly like me. I feel like I've done nothing this past year. But I've decided I've got to get out and do things now or I never will.

Em
xx

[OMFGIDC]

I'm exactly the same.
It's worrying.
But I know the only way I'm ever going to change is by pushing myself, and forcing myself to hang out with new people, go to new places, make new friends.
I'll only ever change by WANTING to.
You have to want to, and you have to push yourself, there's no such thing as can't.

[brownsimpson]

yeh when i was 13 or 14 i had no social life. i'm 19 now and my friends are there for me when i need them because i believed in my self that i would get close friends. i had one friend and she invited me to cool parties. then i didn't really like parties that much cos i thought it might be dangerous. but then when i joined a lot of parties i thought hey this ain't bad. i met lots of friends through there as well. if you don't like parties why not join a club. if you like ur xbox that much join a gaming club. i'm sure they'll have the same interest as you. just google it and see what happens good luck

[g36calex]

Just to point out xbox live does not count as a social life... Seriusly man even though its harsh get away from the game systemsthere yourworst enemy andf u ever go out somewhere dont dare take a hand held with you or wipe out the cell. Try finding people you share intrests in maybe some one at your school can talk about video games or computers or w/e with you then from there move on to meet new people and just to say u may wana keep the convos about games a little low it can get over kill i kno i used to be like you......

[Stunt]

I used to feel like that in middle school. I was like hated in that school because I was the kid from Philly. But when High School started, most the people I knew went to different schools and I rose my way to the top.

Now, sure you can get on XBOX Live every once in a while (it's fun), but not all day. I used to be a computer freak, but I'm not really on much. I just leave it open for when I need it. Make some friends, ask if they wanna hang out after school, go to the school yard, play some Basketball, Soccer, Football, Handball, and your set. Don't go straight to your computer after school. Go hang out, unless you have homework, do that first, then hang out.

[tf_arl_90]

If you like video games, why not go to the arcade and try to meet some friends there? I think it's important to expand your interests and get out a bit more, but I wouldn't throw away the hobbies you already have. Just cut down a bit :)

[m0st~wantEd]

i totally recognized myself in that account. sometimes all i wanna do is to throw my computer and videogames out of the window but i can't. there's no more antisocial than these, i know it, but i keep staying on my chair. i have no girlfriend, i know why, i know it will be good for me, but i don't react again.

i envy my best friend. i was able to find a girlfriend for him, and now he can go out every saturday night. of course, he doesn't forget me, he is grateful. he stays my best friend but i admire how he became an accomplished guy with a nice girlfriend, his reliability, his driving licence... it happened in very little time that i was overwhelmed and i feel like i am a rung under him.

[tf_arl_90]

If you like video games, why not go to the arcade and try to meet some friends there? I think it's important to expand your interests and get out a bit more, but I wouldn't throw away the hobbies you already have. Just cut down a bit :)

I didn't mean the TF arcade. I meant an actual one around where you live haha.

[Guest mee]

Hi,
From your post, I sense that the underlying issue isn't that you have no social life, it is more to do with the fact that you seem to have absolutely no self-confidence or self-esteem, both of which are vital ingredients to a good social life.

It is good that you have realised that you spend to much time playing games on your computer or Xbox, but you need to do something about this. Designate a specific amount of time each day/week to play games, and stick to only that time period. Then you can begin to plan the rest of your time with socialble activities.

You say that you have friends alread - so hang out with them more! Even if you invite them over and you all play computer/xbox games, at least it is more fun and sociable than playing by yourself. Meet in a mall, bowling alley... anywhere where you are likely to see other young people, which you may or may not recognise.

With friends, conversations are varied and different all of the time! Sometimes they are full of random crap, other times they can be deep and meaningful... but there is no right conversation to have with your friends, and the numberof myspace comments you have is insignificant to you as a person!

Enjoy yourself, have fun, get to know your friends better and don't worry. Be upbeat and positive, and people will want to hang out with you and get to know you better.

Have a lovely time being more sociable!
X

[stefahnotis]

il be your friend, all of you. i do love xbox live though.

[Rashella]

Do you and your friends have much in common? If not try finding someone with the same interests then you'll have stuff to talk about.

[Celi]

Yeah you should go to an arcade. Chances are you will meet somebody. Join a club at your school. I met a lot of people when I did community service. Put yourself out there because if you don't make an effort you will get nowhere.

[metal-maniac-13]

Meet up with your friends, if you don't receive messages then maybe you don't TXT much either? Try doing that.
Also get outta house and hang around streets, thats what I do when I've got nothing better to do, I meet some of my friends out then carry on with them.

[err-luff]

Go to a party.
Go play sport with your friends.
Join a club.
There's normally these sites where you can look up activities in your area where you can catch up with people.

[nac1089]

As said by many people, just get in touch with your friends and ask them to hang out. For me, it's really hard to see a lot of my friends because I'm so busy with school, work and school activities, so by the time I get home, I'm pooped. I also am usually with my boyfriend because he really keeps me going all the time. But as said above, just talk to them and ask them to hang out one weekend. Take a break from that x-box.