Should I forgive her?

[brownsimpson]

OK, this very close friend of mine had been with her boyfriend for a year, then i saw her boyf with another girl and told her that he had cheated on her. she didn't want to believe me and wanted to believe her boyf over me. we never spoke for 2 months because of this. then last weeks she found out that he did cheat on her and now she wants to apologise for not believing in me in the first place. i'm just sooo angry that she chose not to talk to me when i told her that he cheated and then when she found out that he did cheat she wants to be best buddies with me again. is this fair? i know this isn't about me and i'm really sorry that she had to find out this way, she has plenty of other friends she can cry on but should i forgive her for not believing in me in the first place or shall i tell her that she should've believed me over her boyf?

thanks

[m0st~wantEd]

what was her reaction when she learned she has been cheated ? i suppose she wasn't wild with joy... let her stagger under the blow before thinking if you would forgive her or not. it's not her fault. she probably loved her boyfriend so much. but i believe she realized her mistake.

[brownsimpson]

yeh she kinda got really upset and realizes that she made a big mistake for not talking to me. i told her look i'll be there for her but i don't think i can trust her to trust me again. i dunno it might just take time.

[Bob!]

Aye I'd say forgive her.

If it was the other way round and it was you she cheated on then fair enough but since it is not, then if she was a good friend then let it lie.

As previously mentioned she was probably so in love she didn't want to believe it, which is quite understandable. Its not that she didn't trust you, itl probably have eben that she just loved her boyfriend and didn't want to lose him and believe anythin like that until proven true to herself, yes it was a mistake that she didn't believe it but it was an understandable one, and at least she's apologised as well.

So aye I'd say be there for her, comfort her and just let her know ya was trying to do the best for her, but its just how it went so it wasn't her fault.

[m0st~wantEd]

sure. but trust is not easy to recover. that let to put a price on friendship. do think that the more difficult it is, the more your links would be strong, and you could count on each other again. :)

[Darts]

I think after this you won't really have to worry about her not trusting you again. Forgive her out of love and because you know how much she's suffered from being cheated on and from the guilt of knowing she should have trusted you, and you will be even better friends because of it.

We all do silly things because we refuse to face the truth.

[brownsimpson]

well, at first i didn't want to tell her cos i knew she would get upset but the more i kept it a secret the more i wanted to tell her cos i didn't want her to still be going out with him not knowing he cheated on her and it came to this massive issue between us. personally trust is something i feel strongly about and if she dousn't trust me anymore there's no point of us being friends, in the other cos she's a VERY close friend of mine maybe it was just a small misunderstanding. i'm very traditional when it comes to loving your friends and family. friendship and family comes first then boys second. that's why i need a second opinion. thanks

[err-luff]

I think you should forgive her,
But don't say anything about she should have believed you over him.