Help !!!

[pressure]

what do you do when you give 70% in a realtionship and he only gives 30%???????????????????

i feel like my bf doesnt love me. weve been going out for nearly 18 months and things ahve been perfect up until about a months or so ago. he desperately wants a job but NO ONE will give him a chance. weve been looking together and nothing !!!

hes 'depressed' because of that and he takes it out on me
i only get to see him over the weekend because of college and stuff, so during the week i talk to him over msn
whenever we talk over msn, he only gives me one word answers to everything i say !!!!
and usually its the word 'ok' !!!!!!!!!!!

i really duno what to do, its getting me down because iv done all i can think of to help this situation


i put everything iv got into this relationship and obviously getting none of it in return

i need help !!!!!!!

oh and top all that off..........i have to ASK for a kiss or cuddle (how sad is that) because he wont give me any

im at my wits end now, duno what else to do

HELP !!!

[xLisax]

to be honest with u, theres only one thing u can do, n thats to talk to him about it. let him kno how ur feeling, whether its thro a letter, email, or face to face. he needs to kno or he cant realise. sometimes its difficult to see how other people are feeling, so thats y you have to let them kno. lemme kno how things go. hope they go ok :)

[pressure]

to be honest with u, theres only one thing u can do, n thats to talk to him about it. let him kno how ur feeling, whether its thro a letter, email, or face to face. he needs to kno or he cant realise. sometimes its difficult to see how other people are feeling, so thats y you have to let them kno. lemme kno how things go. hope they go ok :)


i have told him how i feel and all he says is 'i didnt ask you to help me'
what do u say to that????

he jus says 'i wont be happy unless i get a job', he is trying

i feel like im losing the battle !!!!!!!

[EssixOwl]

You need to tell him that you don't control everything in his life as it seems he's taking it out on you when something goes wrong. Let your feelings come out, have a rant at him, make him sit up & notice you there. Either he's very very uneducated or it's just HE'S not trying hard enough to get a job, tell sternly that HE needs to sort all the shit out in his life & he should stop taking it out on you.

[pressure]

You need to tell him that you don't control everything in his life as it seems he's taking it out on you when something goes wrong. Let your feelings come out, have a rant at him, make him sit up & notice you there. Either he's very very uneducated or it's just HE'S not trying hard enough to get a job, tell sternly that HE needs to sort all the shit out in his life & he should stop taking it out on you.


do you not think iv tried that and like i said i get the same response

'i didnt ask you to help'


iv said to him theres only so much i can do, uv gotta do the rest

[EssixOwl]

Then tell him to pick up his act or your off. It seems as if he's not bothered about you anymore just his pride & money, so give him an ultimatum & see how much he really does love you. It may sound radical & harsh, but from what you've told us, he just throws everything back in your face so see if he does this to you when you tell him...also do it face to face. Expressions show everything.

[pressure]

Then tell him to pick up his act or your off. It seems as if he's not bothered about you anymore just his pride & money, so give him an ultimatum & see how much he really does love you. It may sound radical & harsh, but from what you've told us, he just throws everything back in your face so see if he does this to you when you tell him...also do it face to face. Expressions show everything.


i was thinking of doing that a while ago but didnt go through with it

i duno if he does love me, couldnt bare it if he didnt after everything weve been through

thanks man

:)

[EssixOwl]

i was thinking of doing that a while ago but didnt go through with it

i duno if he does love me, couldnt bare it if he didnt after everything weve been through

thanks man

:)

No problem. Men are idiots when it comes to relationships(bar me :D) & sometimes they need a kick up the arse, but your boyfriend seems to have lost his intimate touch with you. Hope all goes well.

[pressure]

No problem. Men are idiots when it comes to relationships(bar me :D) & sometimes they need a kick up the arse, but your boyfriend seems to have lost his intimate touch with you. Hope all goes well.


yeah he has and its strange because we used to be the most romantic couple, we had his best mate jealous of us because we were so close

i hope it goes well too
i am seriously at my wits end

[hevence]

have u ever heard the saying "you always hurt the ones you love" its true my boyfriend does the same some times but we always talk and sort things out

p.s i always have to ask for cuddles hes tight!! :D

[pressure]

have u ever heard the saying "you always hurt the ones you love" its true my boyfriend does the same some times but we always talk and sort things out

p.s i always have to ask for cuddles hes tight!! :D


i do talk to him and it doesnt seem to get me nowhere

he used to be a real touchy-feely person which is why it hurts that hes changed so much

[Mamfy]

Ask him WHY he has changed and whether he likes who he has changed into. Then you can tell him you don't like what he's become

[pressure]

we seem to be cool for the mo

i think its jus when hes alone for the whole week he has ALOT of time to think so stuff goes round and round in his head

thanks anyway ppl

il say if anything else changes

:)

[Pau & Aka]

I have a similar problem but I decided to leave the relationship because I give more than him and he lies to me, he doesn't want to see me but he says " yes,I want to see you everytime" but the time didn't arrive. I recomend you that first you talk to him and the second depens of the answer of him if you want to leave him or not.