Internet Relationships

**Nosferatu** · April 27th '06

I'm quite curious as to what people's thoughts on people loving each other over the 'net.. and I'd rather than this become a discussion topic, would rather it be a debate, ergo, it being posted in the Debate Forum.

I, personally, believe it can blossom anywhere, and yes, that also means over the Internet. I've witnessed it blossoming on the 'net with someone I know, and I know someone else who's on the verge of taking a walk on the web-side of love. No, I'm not talking about those where you can go meet them, and see them, because they are on the same continent; I'm talking about those that are seriously long-didstance. At least the length of the Atlantic Ocean.

I'm not joking. It does, and has happened.

The question is; Do you believe in Internet Relationships? Please be sure to state your reasons as to why you chose your answer, as well. It wouldn't be a debate, if you didn't.

Discuss...

**Luke** · April 27th '06

No.

Pathetic.

**Nosferatu** · April 27th '06

Care to add emphasis to your answer, fcuk4forest? Your answer is very vague.. Just calling it pathetic isn't really the constructive kind of responce to this, as I would have liked. Bear in mind I'm actually looking to make a discussion out of this, rather than your simple, spammy responce of "No. Its pathetic."

**Luke** · April 27th '06

I wasn't spamming. It's what I truly believe.

**Nosferatu** · April 27th '06

I understand that it is what you believe, however, your post is, indeed, spammy for a debate section. I understand that you truly believe that it is pathetic, and I wouldn't mind, were this posted, elsewhere, how you posted, however, I posted in the Debate Forum to get more constructive answers than what you just gave. Forgive me if that seemed like a farfetched request..

**~Wayne~** · April 27th '06

I don't believe long distance relationships can work whatever anyone says to be honest.
P.s Can you dull down the font its really hard to read

**Bob!** · April 27th '06

Id say as youve really got to know the mind of each other, and you CAN physically see each other often enough, or there is at least hope of being able to do that in the near future, it can be done. Just takes dedication from both sides.

Though if theres no hope of physical contact at all, and especially if its an overseas thing, I dont really think that has a chance of working lol.

**Boy_Wonder06** · April 27th '06

No offence but no one can discuss this type of thing withotu first hand experience, i personally have dated someone from America, and i dated them for 4 long months, and then things got so good, they came over with there family for other reasons and we ended up even better off, so in my eyes long distance relationships can work if your prepared to make them work. Im not jokin its dam hard and sometimes you think its all a waste of time but it realli isnt. thats my argument

**lilsawa2oo6** · April 28th '06

i jus wanna say it can work and does work, ive had distant/internet relationships before.. mah last one was with a guy from scotland (thats as distant as it got) but we stayed together at least 4/5 months before deciding to end it.. and during that time hed fone me every night... like others have said, you both have to be willing to put in the effort !!

**Kaiser** · April 29th '06

I think love can certainly happen, as a given, but in most cases it isn't feasible that a relationship would work, especially if it would be difficult to arrange visits.

**Bob!** · April 29th '06

Aye if its goin to work at all then id say ya at least need a few physical visits as much as possible, and other contact be maintained almost constantly such as text and voice.

I wouldnt believe in a relationship where ya NEVER saw each other but, if ya just a bit far away and as long as theres hope of being able to be finally be with each other forever than it could work, with a lotta dedication.

**Boy_Wonder06** · April 30th '06

it all depends on the relationship u have goin, if ur strong enough then u can do it, and no offence it dont take much to arrange a visit, all u need to do is check train times and prices or buses etc, its so easy ive dun it many a time. ive travelled all the way to london, nottingham!

**Nosferatu** · May 1st '06

To define strong, distant relationships, I can tell you that someone I know has been in one for over 15 months, and its still going strong. In the end, if the relationship doesn't contain any physical contact, or meeting, then a great level of love and caring is needed, between the two.

**Pearson** · May 4th '06

For an internet relationship, I think relations could come of it, but I dont think you could have a proper relationship without physical contact. Using the internet as a meeting place I think is fine, but dating someone you wont meet doesnt seem ideal to me.

I dont think I could do a long distance relationship, mind you, you can never say never really.

**Hevz** · May 4th '06

I agree with pearson n the other ppl tht av sed bout avin 2 have sum sort of physical contact bcos i think in some ways u can't love sum1 u have never seen or at least i wud find it very hard. U r in love with an idea of them. however i do think u can have a long distant relationship but it wud take a lot of dedication and trust in the other person.

**Stephanie** · May 7th '06

I highly doubt it would be possible to have a good "meaningful" relationship with someone who you never see. Now I know that sex isn't everything in a relationship, heck I personally don't think it even rates highly, but I do believe there would need to be some kind of physical contact, whether it be just kissing or hugging. You just need that physicality there. I find that it really gives you a feel of closeness, trust and safety which are all important aspects in a good relationship.

And besides, you could never be entirely sure if your partner was being faithful to you and you can never really know who they really are. Who knows? They could be some 50 year old virgin who lives in their parents basement and they actually told you that they are a very successful 30 year old lawyer or whatever. They could also be married with kids or be a kid themself. You never know.

**~Wayne~** · May 7th '06

I still agree it is ok to meet someone on the internet but whats the huge problem with going out and finding someone?

**Pearson** · May 7th '06

Duroxis wrote:

I still agree it is ok to meet someone on the internet but whats the huge problem with going out and finding someone?

Some people find it hard to chat up women in real life, I do, I know a lot of people that do. Its a lot easier to talk to someone over the internet than it is to there face.

**ib0b** · August 25th '06

It seems awkward to think this, but:
Meeting someone on-line could be sometimes better than in real life.

Haven't you ever saw someone that appears sexually appealing and approached them to be their friend? Maybe the relationship would start a bit misdirected because you are more likely to want things besides a true friendship and knowing and loving someone for who they, besides the way their body is, are.

If you meet someone on-line, you may have a better relationship when you just be with them because you started the relatioship based on what you are thinking and feeling rather than what the persons presense is like (the way they look and sound).

It is always better to have a relationship in person though.

**bumbledore** · August 25th '06

ib0b wrote:

It seems awkward to think this, but:
Meeting someone on-line could be sometimes better than in real life.

Haven't you ever saw someone that appears sexually appealing and approached them to be their friend? Maybe the relationship would start a bit misdirected because you are more likely to want things besides a true friendship and knowing and loving someone for who they, besides the way their body is, are.

If you meet someone on-line, you may have a better relationship when you just be with them because you started the relatioship based on what you are thinking and feeling rather than what the persons presense is like (the way they look and sound).

It is always better to have a relationship in person though.

I agree for the most part.
Still, I think an internet relationship would be way too complicated for my taste