friends with boyfriends

*DoBin* · September 2nd '05

now i ma going thru this atm

my mates recelty got bfs and i haven'tnow i am bothred but still anyway

they been hanging out more and everything without me

now i no longer see them as friends after a fall out i had with them earlier on in the year
but i was wondering what u would do in my situtation

we have made friends but i don;t see them as best anymore but they do not know that

*fender.chiq* · September 2nd '05

I think there's a lot of instances where this kind of things happens.

I've been through one where the friends actually started to change to be more attractive to the guy, but she was changing herself and who she was instead. it was quite a sad thing to be losing her really

If you've made up with your friends, would spending more 'bonding' time together help you to grow close to them again?

Mamfy · September 3rd '05

Yeah, I think you should never lket a guy come in the way of your friendship.

Maybe you could talk to them about how you feel left out? If not, just spend more time with them and get to know them a lot deeper, who knows, they might set you up

Entice · September 3rd '05

Read through what i say before i post it. Half of that was really broken up.
However, id talk to them about it. Maybe they havent realised they've been leaving u out.

Mamfy · September 3rd '05

What I wrote was broken up?

Bob! · September 3rd '05

Eh?

Anyways lol. what ya sayins quite common, but ppl should reach a comprimise and balance tbh.

Anyways dont worry bout it, talked about that wi ya earlier.

Jessicar · September 3rd '05

They'll get a big shock and fall right back down to earth when/if they break up.

Mamfy · September 3rd '05

Goodness me you're a hit wit the ladies bob!!
You seem to be with everyone and know everything about all the girls!(even the new ones lol)

Bob! · September 3rd '05

Hah, I wish.

As I said b4 mamfy, quite the opposite tbh, Dunno why it seems that to ya.

Twas just random chance she added me on msn and later got discussin that situation thats all. Dont see how I can be a "hit" just by sayin hello in a welcome topic lol.

Anyways as to the topic, just try arrangin more girly nights out or whatever, or at least have them and their bfs all be together and tolerate u there as well. Yes its good to have sum privacy but a comprimise is needed if a friend is valued.

Queen Shaqua · September 3rd '05

I think u should just talk 2 them. Try not 2 sound demanding though, or u might push them away. Just gently let them know how u feel. If they're good friends, they'll understand, & everything will work out fine. In the end, friends come first, those relationships of theirs mite not last, and who will they go back 2? So don't worry 2 much about it.

Mamfy · September 3rd '05

Just what I said basically! SUmmed it up nicely

*DoBin* · September 3rd '05

thnx 4 the advbice ppl
i will talk to them soon

Mudge = Myth · September 3rd '05

just get a bf ya self n join in wiv em

*DoBin* · September 3rd '05

yes but i would be getting a bf for all the worng reasons and i don;t mean like that

*fender.chiq* · September 3rd '05

DoBin, I am very, very glad you've seen sense there. Some people would have just picked up any guy so they'd fit in with their friends, but boyfriends aren't something you use as a status symbol to fit in and 'be cool'.

You should only go out with a boy when you're ready and you like the guy.

And the solution to this problem.. I don't think it would be solved by picking up any old guy really..

*DoBin* · September 3rd '05

excatly its like having bf is the new fad or somthing
its all the medias fault

Drunk_druid · September 4th '05

wow...guys being used as status symbols...usually its the gals. I hate the whole rage about having a gf its stupid, u should only hav a gf if you really like them!

Mamfy · September 4th '05

Too true, or a boyfriend in our cases!

People just think that because they have a boyfriend or a girlfriend that they're cool and better than everyone. ANd it does not mean that! Some people jus thaven't found the right person yet and are being sensible and waiting until they have

Drunk_druid · September 4th '05

exactly

*+*BeCcI*+* · September 4th '05

all my friends have bf's but i still see them all the time .. but i have a few groups of friends so when sum arnt cummin out i go with others but most of my friends are lads and when they have g.f's its like they have migrated or summat they neva cum out unless they wid the girls .. so it is good to have more than one group of friends but i wouldnt worry if one of your frinds splits up then they will need somone to talk to. your not alone not having a bf tho i havent! lol